I don't know your husband but my guess is that he is willing to do nearly anything to make you feel loved and supported. I am also guessing that you and your husband may not be completely aligned when it comes to love languages. When you are really hurting or feeling alone, he can usually do the things that make you feel loved but you yearn for him to show the same effort every day. He is somewhat oblivious and unless he observes you hurting he may not be self aware enough to make the concerted effort. The reason, it just doesn't come naturally for him.
Your husband has approached you and asked you to lock his penis up. Does this mean that he doesn't want to have sex with you? On the contrary, this probably means that he craves more intimacy and sexual situations. He is probably deeply aware that he can do better around the house and realizes that a lock on the cock will help him realign his priorities and be more emotionally available.
Tease and denial is the act of experiencing high levels of sexual arousal without orgasm, think of it as foreplay on steroids. Foreplay is great, it primes our pumps for lovemaking and allows blood to start flowing to all of the right places. Imagine for a moment that foreplay lasted for hours or even days. There is a sense of euphoria and high that surrounds this type of long term sexual arousal without satisfying the arousal with an orgasm. Orgasm denial is a combination of chemical reactions and physical responses which trigger libido and excitement in the subconscious mind.
Locking him up is about taking charge of the relationship, at least the sexual side. Find a cage that fits well and experiment with what works for the two of you. I can give you advise on what works and doesn't work for me but much of it will be trial an error with your own relationship. I'd recommend that you start with my blog entitled Taking The Reins for more information on how to get started.
On the contrary, this may be a change but it should result in having more help around the house and feeling more pampered overall. Understanding his needs and helping him manage his sexual urges will become second nature before you know it. Before long, you will be having fun with it and really enjoying the new relationship dynamic that it adds. Remember that he is bringing a fantasy to you and indulging his fantasy will validate your love to him. From the female standpoint, chastity is one of the most beneficial fantasies that he could have approached you with. Give it a shot, in my opinion you've really lucked out.
You can do lots of fun things with it! Could he stand to lose a few pounds? Do you need more help around the house? Does he have a masturbation problem? How about other addictions such as smoking or alcohol? All of these things can be used in conjunction with a chastity cage to motivate positive behaviors. Remember that the cage is not a punishment, reinforce and reward his positive behaviors with attention while he is caged. …
Nice advice, just wondering about the “penis sleeve”. Never find some solution that worked in combination with a cage.
Completely understandable bob. I know that there is an attachment for the CB series of plastic cages that is essentially a penis sleeve extension that is hollow and attaches directly to the base ring to temporarily replace the tube. We could never find one to purchase though so I don’t have any type of review to offer.
Non-cage related sleeves are amazingly fun. You should give them some consideration. It is one amazingly beautiful way to, as Emma says, amplify the denial.
Any suggestions on where to purchase a sleeve?
We got both of ours from adamandeve.com
@LocknKey, we got ours from our local sex shop. They had a good selection to choose from.
Great article. Thanks.
You’re very welcome. Thanks for reading!
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Best introduction to male chastity that I have ever read.