Behind The Scenes: Always getting better

It is insane to think that this site has been around for nearly three years in one form or another. I started reading the now defunct FLR 101 blog written by YogaGirl and it really made me think about the why behind the successes and failures in my past relationships. I've been able to archive some of those blogs but I think the majority of them disappeared into the ether when her blog shut down unexpectedly. Her perspective really opened a new way of thinking for me. I started this blog a way for me to express myself and sort out my thoughts around relationships as I chronicled my trial and error with the relationship tools and skills that YogaGirl preached. I took her prescriptive approach and tried to use much of what she shared in my relationship with Kev. It turns out that her approach was too one sided and created resentment between us. The heavy handed style that Yoga dictated made us less of a team and took Kev to a sidekick role in a Batman/Robin type relationship. That was never my intent nor my relationship goal. In my perfect relationship, Kev is a main character in my story not a sidekick or footnote. We work together to manipulate his biology to free us of external biological influences and build a closer relationship.

In December 2018 I started thinking about creating an actual website and getting a website name of my own. In January 2019 I finally created something but building and running a blog turned out to be difficult and the first iteration was much less usable than the previous platform. I decided to go back to the previous wordpress.com blog and keep working on it. My friend Andrea helped me with the programming and brought it to the level that it is today. She also spent hours of her time teaching me the basics of running the site. Once the site officially launched in a way that was more usable than the previous version, I was super stoked. I continually learn new things and we've added a ton of new features like the forum and the member directory (thanks @jd ). There are so many neat things that you can bolt on to the site and some of them are really easy. Others not so much!

I've broken the site numerous times, I got flagged as a spammer once and even signed up with a completely overbearing ad company that promised a six figure income from this site. I sorted out the email problem and found a new ad company that gave me more flexibility. Between that and the backers on patreon (thank you!), the site does sustain itself financially so that's awesome. Since then, I've even thought about writing a book!

Update 9/30/2024 - Patreon cancelled my account because of "mature content" so please use Buy Me A Coffee if you would like to show support.

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