Dear Denna,
First of all, thank you for sending your story over. It takes courage to openly discuss something so intimate even with a complete internet stranger, especially when it so drastically changed the dynamic of your relationship. What happened between you, your husband, and his friend sounds like it was spontaneous and fun in the moment, but it has left you with some questions about where to go next. The good news? You have options, and none of them are wrong. This is about what feels right for you and your marriage. Ultimately the decision is yours but let’s explore three different paths you could take and the potential outcomes of each.
An accidental cuckold scenario is a thing, I didn't find it in websters dictionary so here is my definition.
accidental cuckold ( /ˌæksɪˈdɛntəl ˈkʌk.oʊld/ ) noun
A situation in which a man unintentionally finds himself in a cuckold dynamic, often without prior expectation. This can occur, for example, when a couple engages in a planned threesome with another man, but the woman’s partner ends up sitting out—whether due to unexpected chemistry between his partner and the other man, performance anxiety, or a shift in dynamics. The experience may evoke feelings of surprise, jealousy, or arousal, sometimes leading to deeper self-discovery or relationship reassessment.
The safest and simplest route is to acknowledge that this experience was a one-time thing and reaffirm your commitment to a monogamous relationship. You can lovingly tell your husband that, while you don’t regret the experience, you don’t want to continue down this path. Explain that it was a moment of spontaneity, fueled by alcohol and excitement, but that it’s not something you feel comfortable having as an ongoing part of your relationship.…
I know I’ve been critical recently, however I absolutely love this blog Emma.
Emma is right, if you do option 3. Do it if it makes you feel good. You are in charged of this whole dynamic. Yes you have to have communications and consent with both of you on the same page. But you make the rules. You decide on who you date. You decide if your husband will watch or will he be at home waiting. Major aftercare and connection needs to take place as soon as you get home. You are the driver of this dynamic and husband has to agree on being the passenger of this ride. If he doesn’t like your rules. Option 3 is off the table.
There is option 4
Create a scenario where he feels more then enough let him be in the driver’s seat
Some times we forget cought up in a moment that people are flexible and multi faceted
Try something new get his mind back in the game hopping nothing but the best for you both 😁