In my previous blog about antisocial distancing, I talked about physical touch and separated it from sex. In this one I will do just the opposite. What about when touching your sexy bits isn’t about sex at all. I started researching tantra and massage shortly after posting our tantric troll’s story. Lingam Massage The penis… Continue reading Tantra – Touch and Sex
Physical touch is very important to many of us and it seems that our society does our best to eliminate touch at every turn. Have you ever heard the term “I’m a hugger”? This typically means that the self admitted hugger knows that he or she recognizes the most love by physical contact. Most adults… Continue reading Antisocial Distancing
He probably does want to be locked! Once he grows accustomed to the feel of the cage and managing his releases, many men grow to feel more comfortable when caged. In a previous blog I mentioned that most men are hard wired to want to please their partner. For a man, pleasing his partner gives… Continue reading Why does it seem like he wants to be locked?
Let’s talk about motivation. A typical man’s sexual energy is very closely linked to his desire to please you. That may seem odd but men in fact are hard wired to derive pleasure when you are happy and content. When there is conflict or unrest, they will do their best to resolve the conflict and… Continue reading What Motivates Him?
I admit it. Penises fascinate me. I wouldn’t say that penises are incredibly attractive (sorry guys) but they are incredibly practical. Their sizes and shapes are perfect for their purpose. I don’t typically get instantly aroused when I see a picture of a penis but I do get turned off seeing penises that are generally… Continue reading Penis Fascination
For those of you who have been around a while, you know that I’m never one to be afraid of feeding the trolls. Something about the the site or my experiences with Kevin must trigger people. In any case, I received the comment below and decided to publish it as a blog to encourage discussion… Continue reading Tantric Trolls
DominusServae contacted me and we’ve been corresponding about his thoughts on the blog with relation to his own experience as a dominant male. It seems that much of what I have found with males is similar to what he has found. Kev and I did do some playing with paddles, corner time, kneeling. This journey… Continue reading A Dom Perspective
Kevin is running some errands this morning and I am just sitting here drinking my coffee and thinking. I just wanted to take a moment to write a blog in appreciation of men. So many blogs minimize men and make them out to be some sort of monster. Men are beautiful, appreciative, amazing gifts and… Continue reading In Appreciation of Men
I’m writing the draft of this blog on a flight during that strange week between Christmas and New Year. Thankfully the flight is half full and I have the whole row to myself. I don’t think I’d be able to concentrate if I was constantly worried about the wandering eyes of the person beside me.… Continue reading Sexualizing Insecurities
Masturbation is a huge part of our sexuality. We all masturbate and taking matters into our own hands is nothing to be ashamed of. The problems come when masturbation causes conflict in the relationship. Problems occur when the masturbation of one partner gets in the way of the sexual or emotional needs of the other.… Continue reading Talk to him about masturbation