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Tantra – Touch and Sex

In my previous blog about antisocial distancing, I talked about physical touch and separated it from sex. In this one I will do just the opposite. What about when touching your sexy bits isn’t about sex at all. I started researching tantra and massage shortly after posting our tantric troll’s story. Lingam Massage The penis… Continue reading Tantra – Touch and Sex

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Antisocial Distancing

Physical touch is very important to many of us and it seems that our society does our best to eliminate touch at every turn. Have you ever heard the term “I’m a hugger”? This typically means that the self admitted hugger knows that he or she recognizes the most love by physical contact. Most adults… Continue reading Antisocial Distancing

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Why does it seem like he wants to be locked?

He probably does want to be locked! Once he grows accustomed to the feel of the cage and managing his releases, many men grow to feel more comfortable when caged. In a previous blog I mentioned that most men are hard wired to want to please their partner. For a man, pleasing his partner gives… Continue reading Why does it seem like he wants to be locked?

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Sexualizing Insecurities

I’m writing the draft of this blog on a flight during that strange week between Christmas and New Year. Thankfully the flight is half full and I have the whole row to myself. I don’t think I’d be able to concentrate if I was constantly worried about the wandering eyes of the person beside me.… Continue reading Sexualizing Insecurities

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Talk to him about masturbation

Masturbation is a huge part of our sexuality. We all masturbate and taking matters into our own hands is nothing to be ashamed of. The problems come when masturbation causes conflict in the relationship. Problems occur when the masturbation of one partner gets in the way of the sexual or emotional needs of the other.… Continue reading Talk to him about masturbation