Every guy has had performance anxiety, and has probably been unable to perform because of it. This has happened to me with my partners from time to time, but my current relationship is long distance, which means that on the few occasions where she comes to visit me, I have embarrassingly been unable to perform as well as I'd hoped. I get a sense of relief from chastity, knowing that I won't be expected to perform, and it makes the whole experience more rewarding for us both. We've even incorporated humiliation into our sex life, and she regularly teases me about being unable to get it up. It's caused me to fantasize about having permanent ED, and I find the idea of it a huge turn on. Can anyone else relate to this?
The human mind is an amazing thing and when things are a threat, we can turn it into a fetish that actually turns us on. Cuckold fetish for example is a fetish I believe comes from fear of being cheated on. Does that make it a bad thing? The mind adapts to find the most scary and painful things as arousing. Fascinating and incredible, really. When she teases you, do you get hard?
I can relate to this. I fantasize that my penis is never again used in a sexual way, leaving me to gain pleasure from anal play and to give pleasure using my hands and mouth. While being caged fulfils this in a way, it wouldn't be needed in this imaginary scenario because my penis would be a neglected nub of a thing.
Perhaps caging is a form of artificial ED
I may have overshared here ?
I think so.
I find the "embarrassment" of not being able to perform contradictory to "enjoying the humiliation" of not being able to perform. Maybe Emma is right about fear and fantasy. I'm not sure that's what is going on with your situation, but if you are happy with the dynamic, that's what matters.
@stevesub I have a similar fantasy of being permanantly caged and chaste, and only allowed to orgasm from anal penetration.
It was difficult to find a lady/s who had an impotence(ED) and/or castration fetish in connection with in the FLR. But it was not impossible...
I have, and don’t really enjoy, ED and orgasm issues. They all stem from a health issue years back. But since those issues are not going away we actually incorporated them into our intimacy and FLR play. I’ve posted here that I wear a chastity device (a lot) and thoroughly enjoy it when my wife teases me without even trying to make me orgasm. This was my suggestion but sometimes it gets so kinky and frustrating that I am able to perform (or think I can). She’s actually denied me orgasms for a lengthy period of time and finally gave in, which resulted weak to fair releases for me. When I can’t perform anymore I think I’ll have her click the lock shut for good (obviously I’ll occasionally need release for hygiene). I actually like the idea that’s more in the way of permanent orgasm denial play if the time comes. My wife swears she’s never been happier, but she has a happy husband who can’t ever really be unfaithful in the way other men could. Thus, we’re happy.
On October 1, 2022, I became a voluntary eunuch. I was surgically neutered me and am on minimal testosterone. It's hard sometimes, but basically I enjoy it. I am grateful to my helpers in the procedure and aftercare.
@attistocybele Congratulations to your former self. The coffee is boiled.
I can relate to this. I fantasize that my penis is never again used in a sexual way, leaving me to gain pleasure from anal play and to give pleasure using my hands and mouth. While being caged fulfils this in a way, it wouldn't be needed in this imaginary scenario because my penis would be a neglected nub of a thing.
Perhaps caging is a form of artificial ED
I may have overshared here ?
I have the same dream, that my penis is never again used in a sexual way, and to be only allowed to orgasm from anal penetration. Of course I'm force to give pleasure using my hands, mouth and ass our by any other means whenever is demanded
I am a Male, bottom only, heterosexual man, that only orgasms through prostate stimulation.
On October 1, 2022, I became a voluntary eunuch. I was surgically neutered me and am on minimal testosterone. It's hard sometimes, but basically I enjoy it. I am grateful to my helpers in the procedure and aftercare.
I have a strong fantasy of having a total penectomy because I fell that i don't need my penis any more for anything, he is so useless. But I would never cut my balls. Not having a penis any more would be the ultimate permanent chastity.
I am a Male, bottom only, heterosexual man, that only orgasms through prostate stimulation.
On October 1, 2022, I became a voluntary eunuch. I was surgically neutered me and am on minimal testosterone. It's hard sometimes, but basically I enjoy it. I am grateful to my helpers in the procedure and aftercare.
I have a strong fantasy of having a total penectomy because I fell that i don't need my penis any more for anything, he is so useless. But I would never cut my balls. Not having a penis any more would be the ultimate permanent chastity.
A penectomy is messy. It makes everyday life very difficult. (urinary problems.) Being a eunuch can be tolerated with a minimal estrogen patch without replacing the T of castration. But the libido is no longer a problem, and the penis is no longer in use. But "eunuch sexuality" is not the thrill of a chastity cage. It's quite different and it wants a special and special lady. There are few of them, and it is by no means an ordinary relationship. But it can also be very deep. I'm lucky in this.
@hetero_bottom yes my wife fell pregnant with our second child nine years ago and i have been caged ever since as she stated i don’t enjoy piv sex only oral and no longer need your penis! i’m actually more than happy as it reduced performance anxiety and stopped my porn addiction and masturbating constantly. we have a very tactile and loving marriage. probably about 30/40 to -1 the orgasm ratio of her to me which i’m happy with. i am seriously aroused constantly by the fact she has no use for my penis and on the odd occasion i plead she says no chance.. i don’t think i’ll ever have vaginal sex again. strange how such a situation can work perfectly
I am always limp and I like it, I am a sissy transvestite and I always push my little balls up into my abdomen and tuck my little penis back into my panties. Over time through the use of sissy hypno and self conditioning I am always limp and I can sisygasm with little stimulation into my panties. My fantasy involves permanatly pushing my tiny balls up into my abdomen and having my scrotum removed to make my package smaller and tucking my pepe easier. I was told once by a woman that "sissies don't need balls" and she was right, they just get in the way and make my emasculation more difficult