Am I on the right track? Advice welcomed.

If he was home I'd be very happy to make him red and I know he would not like it. 

Now that’s on the right track. You are the Goddess he should worship everyday. It’s up to you to be tough and loving to train him.

Yes. Agree. 

Ruined orgasms have an amazing effect on me, especially when my wife leads me to believe it’s going to be a full orgasm then tell me at the last second “this is only going to be a ruined”. That messes with my mind, and can make me very emotional, but ultimately willing to do absolutely ANYTHING to be allowed a full orgasm next time!

it also means that I’ll happily clean up the mess without the post orgasm drop stopping me, because there is no post orgasm drop!