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Does Science Support No Nut November? - Rena Malik MD

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Topic starter Posted : 26/11/2021 5:41 pm
Emma
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This one is interesting too. I might need to do a blog about Dr. Rena Malik 

 

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Topic starter Posted : 26/11/2021 5:42 pm
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Two interesting videos. On whether orgasm denial is healthy/unhealthy, I think that while the science is undecided, the degree of change, good or bad, is so small as to not factor in. It seems to me that some people use "science" to support the thing they like to do, but, why not just do it because you like it.

The second video strikes a real chord with me. FLRs are centrally about the man learning not to put himself first, and my own FLR has been (and continues to be) a long journey about us both becoming comfortable with the transfer of power from both perspectives.

Before we embarked on what started out as an exercise in T&D and submission several years ago, our sex life was pleasant but vanilla and predictable - to the extent that sex happened around 5pm on Fridays, and if we missed Friday it was generally next Friday. Being knackered through work and parenthood was a big part of how this came to be.

I've written before that we had a very rocky start to moving forward from vanilla (my fault), but as we made progress, one thing we did was to make room each day for what we call Naked Cuddle Time. As it says on the tin, we go to bed without any clothes on (cages and restraints don't count 🙂 ). We go when my wife says, and once there we do what she wants for as long as she wants. It might be sex or it might be a cuddle and a nap. My role is to go with what her decision is, and to DEFINITELY not put pressure of any kind on her.

Moving on some years, we still do this now, every day, and it's been transformative for us both in both quality, and frequency of what we do and the range of stuff we do. Part of this is that while we made time for sex/not sex, we also inadvertently made space for us to learn to communicate about sex and feelings without hang-ups or embarrassment (after decades of marriage!). My wife is now happy being in control (of the areas she wishes to control - she's not about choosing my menu dishes or sorting out the bank accounts) and knows that I am serious about this being permanent. We've now moved to a place where her control is continuous and permanent and she's not only happy being sexually and domestically dominant but insists on it.

I never know quite when she'll announce it's time for a snuggle, and sometimes find myself looking at the time and wondering if this is the day she'll forget, or just not bother. But she never has yet.

 

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Posted : 27/11/2021 5:48 am
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Posted by: @evolvingyourman_ivcr4j

I might need to do a blog about Dr. Rena Malik 

I love her videos!

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Posted : 27/11/2021 8:03 am
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Posted by: @macy-has-keys
Posted by: @evolvingyourman_ivcr4j

I might need to do a blog about Dr. Rena Malik 

I love her videos!

Same here.  I've seen her videos before it was mentioned here and thought they were wonderful.  

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Posted : 27/11/2021 8:30 am
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Well. As I have pointed before, people try to make things natural (for the geeky out there, theres a book called The Mismeasure of Man, by Stephen Jay Gould - it's interesting to see the critique of statistics methods used to justify inequalities in our societies).

I've seen men using chastity devices believing that sperm retention would make them more muscular, stronger and more intelligent - but that's totally unscientific. Masturbation can be healthy too - the problem is that porn can make people develop unrealistic expectations, especially if it goes down the hardcore way.

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Posted : 13/12/2021 7:40 pm

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