I'm locked since july 2021 and i do not expect to be released. In our marriage chastity has become a way of life and is here to stay. I discovered new, more interesting, ways to please her. Chastity was a game changing experience and we love it.
Recently I watched a couple of porn movies involving male chastity and, stangely enough, many of them ended up with the release of the poor boy which is then allowed to cum.
Chastity is seen as a game that always preludes to a big orgasm, where the powerful and invincible cock finally prevales.
I never let my husband watch porn where a chaste man is allowed to cum. It gives a wrong impression. The only thing I allow is for him to watch 'free' men, alpha males, spoil their partners. Then he can see the difference between him and real man. Generally, that's cuckold porn, with the chaste man watching.
Thankyou @milou, it makes sense.
The point is that chastity is a way of life, not a preliminary game. And it starts from the mind. The cage should be just a reminder. Maybe i'm lucky, but in my case i was deeply involved in my new role much before putting the device on. I managed to find a new positive identity as man, even without cumming. Believe it or not, i feel much more "complete" as man because i gained the precious attitude to concentrate on her pleasure rather than mine. And here comes a great satisfaction for me too.
I totally agree with you: Chastity is a way of life an indeed not a preliminary game. The hardest part is to embrace and accept your chaste life. A belt or cage is just a way to remind you of your place in the hierarchy. My husband also remained a complete husband even without his orgasms.
"Then he can see the difference between him and real man."
No judgment, but this is cringy to me.
Porn and reality are always fire and water, no matter what kind of kink it is. As is usual in any film, nothing is real ... not even the breasts. It's supposed to be sexual entertainment. This is exactly what consumers expect, and that's what they pay for.
After all, you don't expect a crime thriller or a western to reflect 24/7 truth, do you? Only parts of a topic can be processed in a story. Of course, these parts are often clichés. The imagination should be stimulated and clichés work well for that because they offer a familiar and therefore comfortable basis from which the consumer can start his journey. And that in the end the mighty cock wins is the goal of porn, so to speak its original right to exist. Because most paying consumers are men and they have exactly this goal.
I don't think that porn in general should be taken seriously, not even in need of close analysis.
Especially not when the porn deals with sexually non-superficial topics such as chastity, FLR, cuckolding, etc.
For people who live these themes seriously, these "works", which are reduced to bold depictions of sexual practices, can usually not even be seen as an adequate means of sexual entertainment.
I'm only allowed to watch certain porn that my wife approves and that's stored on my hard drive. No online porn! Her criteria are similar to what @milou described. And I have to ask her politely before consumption. Of course!
But this topic will probably be handled a lot more strictly in the future, because as it stands at the moment it is part of my further "husband training".
@thomas Indeed, porn gives people what people want.
So is the common idea about the chastity device that involves the migthy release once in a while.
In the common perception the C device is a sex toy?
I still find it strange, excuse me.