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My wife and I did a lot of research and we discussed FLR. It was me who raised the topic. My wife at first was a bit shocked and asked for time and did her own reading and research. She asked if I knew what I was asking for and I of course said yes without knowing fully what it meant to submit.
4 months later and submitting means many things. My wife owns and controls my orgasms. I no longer get to cum inside her. I wear a chastity cage although we have had to try a lot of different types and I run a lot so it comes off and goes on quickly.
For 17 years our orgasms were nearly 99% one way. I now have to please her orally and sometimes more than once and I do not get to ask, beg or demand to get a release as well. She loves to relish in the after glow of cumming. I trust my wife will look after my needs and she has been very kind to give me a reward once a week.
My wife has also enjoyed discipline with spanking being a major form of release for her. I did not expect this, but it sets her day or week up when she disciplines me and gets her frustration out. I step out of line at times unfortunately and become disrespectful, but I am getting better each day.
We enjoy CFNM, Discipline, Orgasm denial, Chastity, SPH, Emotional honesty, Trust and learning. My wife is now thinking about what it means for her to take on another lover.
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I am grateful I was honest with my wife with my kinks and after she listened and researched about my kinks, she has slowly embraced. Don't rush it, but speak and be honest with your partner and give a lot of space and time. Our relationship has evolved as a result of this.
Posted : 09/03/2025 10:57 pm
Congratulations on beginning your journey, and welcome to the party. Like you, at the beginning of our WLM, I stepped out of line and was disrespectful at times and was also allowed to orgasm weekly. My Wife discovered that the reason for disrespect and misbehavior was in direct correlation to the day or two that followed my frequent orgasms. That problem was resolved by, among other things, a significant reduction in full-on orgasms for me. Those "other things" also included a zero-tolerance policy when it comes to the falloff that follows an orgasm for me. She just simply forbade any change (reduction) in my behavior if she were to grant me an orgasm. As a result, nearly 20 years later, I receive 2-3 full orgasms per year. There are few more ejaculations (without orgasm) than that, but that's. It was natural for us because our commitment to our WLM was based primarily on what gave her pleasure, and very little, if any, attention on what gave me pleasure. No, my pleasure genuinely comes from seeing her have pleasure, sexually or otherwise. Now, when she has orgasms, we refer to them as our orgasms.
Good luck to both of you on your journey.
Posted : 10/03/2025 11:56 am
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Thanks for sharing subhubphx and your feedback around being disrespectful and the drop off in my attentiveness directly relates to when I orgasm. It is an area we have spoken about recently and I have to pay more attention emotionally to hear needs as part of our FLR. I assume WLM (woman lead marriage?) My wife is moving in this direction at her request
Posted : 10/03/2025 7:55 pm
WLM = Wife Led Marriage. Essentially an FLR with one's Wife.
Posted : 11/03/2025 9:56 am
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