I've been married for 10 years to my naturally bossy Wife. I have always been a fetishist since I remember myself. But with my bossy dominating Wife I've started to love to submit to Her and it has become my main turn on. She however is not a kinky person.
However, long story short, I recently discovered that my Wife is regularly meeting a friend from Her school years. They are meeting during lunch break at work. I've been for past years started to fantasize that my Wife could become a hotwife. Therefore I had no objections to Her meeting this male friend. So I did not mention that I have found out about this. However, maybe due to gut feeling that I know anyway, She started telling about this friend and their meetings. As I showed that I do not object their connection, She came really open about who he is and what they talk about. She said She feels like this friend is a male version of Her. This friend is also married.
She claimed that they are simply chatting and that She enjoy conversations with guys and She used to have a lot of male friends, and She misses this as She restrained Herself from meeting other men due to our marriage. I can tell She is really into this guy and he is Her type (very similar to me and to Her father in many aspects including looks).
I really like Her being happy and exploring connection with other men. I also brought up polyandry in our conversation and She loved the concept and started advocating it and we had a big discussion on how good would this concept he for society. I myself am focused only on Her and I have no willingness to engage in any friendship or relationship with any Woman apart from my Goddess who is my Wife.
It has been a few weeks since I found out about this and about two months since she started dating this guy. But since I found out our connection has become stronger, I've become focused on Her. I brought subject of chastity, that refraining from ejaculation makes me more focused on her and we agreed that from now on I will stop masturbating and we will not have penetrative sex and I will not release my seed during our intimacy unless on exceptional cases my Wife will decide that She wants to be penetrated. This also has made me much more submissive to Her and has increased our intimacy.
Thank you! Wish you serve your Queen well! We're doing very well this all has changed a lot we've become as close as never before. She has not met Her friend for a while, as we're really focused on each other. I do not know for sure if She has not ended their meetings, but that is Her choice, i do not want to push Her or hold Her back, She can do as She pleases, i will just make Her sure i will be there for Her no matter what She does.
that is an amazing story thank so much for sharing your situation ... you are so fortunate
A wonderful and inspiring story. Thanks for sharing it. You are to be commended for your feelings toward your Wife! I, too, worship
my wife and would never stand in her way if she wanted to socialize with other men. She knows I
idolize her in every way. She is free to do as she likes. Especially as she is gracious enough to allow me to worship
her body sexually. After I am lucky enough to do this, I am putty in her hands. She truly owns me.
I se you. You write about a situasjon similar to mine snd I rlealy understand. Its woundefull to finaly admitting to be the suportiv and submissive husband to our Goddess Queen! It was linerating for me. I also usaly only do oraly sex toward my Wife. Im pussy wiped and prode of it!
So things have progressed.
I had a discussion a time ago about him with my wife, where she revealed a lot of what they are talking about. I presumed that She knows that I know his name, but it appeared later that She on purpose had not told me his name.
One Saturday a couple of weeks ago I and my wife went out and she drunk two cocktails and got completely wasted (she rarely drinks). She started telling everyone how submissive and ascetic I am "in many ways", and laughing out loud (we agreed that I stop masturbating and focus only on her pleasure). Then we went to my brothers place where he lives with his girlfriend.
We talked and my brothers girlfriend told which school she went to. I asked her of she knew one colleague of mine that went to the same school and she knew. And then suddenly my wife asked if she knew a guy and said her boyfriends name who was learning at the same school as my colleague and my brothers Girlfriend (it appears it was not true that my wife knew this guy from her school which she later confirmed). The fun fact is that we had discussed her boyfriend in detail, but I had not paid attention to the fact that she had never revealed his name, so she thought I did not know that she asks about her boyfriend. I had secretly found out the name of this guy and I did not tell her that I know his name.
My brothers girlfriend said that this guy is arrogant and my wife jumped to defend him, and said that he was actually really nice. She repeated multiple times that she has not met him for years, that this guy is her childhood friend and she knows nothing about what he is doing now. All was of course untrue.
Some days later my we made personality tests for fun about each other and I did not check faithfulness as my main characteristic (I basically just overlooked it), and my wife got furious. But I explained her that I did not pay attention to it as it is natural for me and I do not think about it as characteristic and that for me it is not that important towards her, as I would not get angry or care if she liked also someone else as long as she would be loving towards me. She was surprised and I spent some time explaining that I do not feel any need towards having any intimate relationship apart from her but at the same time I am not jealous and do not care if she developed feelings towards someone else as long as she loved also me. She smiled an hugged me.
Some week ago I had checked that she studies opera repertoire at least once a week. I offered her to go to opera with me and she avoided to answer. I then asked if she loved me, but she said that she does not know. I got upset. I discussed this with her. She said she was angry at me for some small thing I had done and therefore she didn't want to say that she loved me as she was angry with me. She said that opera has nothing to offer at this point and therefore she does not want to go and we should save money rather than spend it on weak performances that they have now at Opera.
I then asked her about her boyfriend, how is he named etc. She started stressfully laughing when I asked these questions. She asked me if I had anything against them meeting, I said that I cannot object her meeting anyone. She was very defensive of him. I asked who was she talking about two months ago when during an argument she said that "She has a chance to be with someone else". She refused to answer in the beginning. And she also refused to tell his name when I asked. She asked me what I am going to do to him. But she told his name (which I already knew) after I said that I just want to know. We then had a very warm conversation about our feelings and we had Sex for multiple days in a row. She started masturbating during our lovemaking asking me to watch. I watched but I also could not stop me from licking her nipples. She had never masturbated during our intimacy. After she was finished she asked me to tell what I crave to do to her, and she asked me to F her. She also had bought lace catsuit witch empty spot for her Yoni. So we had great sex. One day we had sex twice. We had not had so much sex for years. I thanked her all the time and bought her flowers every day.
However a couple of days ago I check her browsing history on her computer. She has Mazzy Star - Fade Into You, Chris Isaak - Wicked Game and Macy Gray - I Can't Wait to Meetchu on the day I know She last met her boyfriend a month ago (longer browsing history not available). The same songs also also that day. I decided to sneak Her phone, when I open it there is a messaging with her lover opened. All the messages have obviously been deleted as there is a single message stating: "Hmm yes, maybe I should once go. As they say: to look in the eyes of the devil. To get to know him. Otherwise I only have an opinion. Then I will have also an experience."
So feeling of being neglected crept in my heart. She also did not want to have sex for last couple of days, and I asked her if it is because she thinks of her friend, I asked about the message I had seen. At first She got stressed out that I will not allow her to meet her boyfriend. I calmed her down. She told that she misses their conversations, she had spent a lot of time with him in her childhood at summers, they shared a lot of past and it is so easy to speak with him and she basically is desperate to have those conversations. She had offered him to go to an art exposition, which she found would be a good thing to do with "just a friend". He did not like the owner of the exposition who was also owner of gambling houses. And apparently it was his message to her about looking in the eyes of the devil regarding going to this art exposition. I had not checked who had sent the message, but I never would have imagined a man would write such an emotional thing. I told her it is fine if they go but she hast to show care for me as well. She told me that I have nothing to worry about because she thinks cheating is a sin and her friend is married. Which makes little sense as she also had told me that he himself had said that men and Women cannot be "just friends". She also admitted to have strong feelings for him and that he was obviously crazy for her. Which looked to me a bit odd coupled together with her statements that cheating is a disgusting thing and a great sin. We ended the conversation in a nice and understanding manner I apologized for my accusations and told that I'm such a fool. We had a nice walk went to a restaurant, then a cafe and watched movie and it was a great day.
She is crazy in love for sure. The fun part about her is that she truly cares for the talking more than for sex, she really loves time spent walking and talking more than sex. She is basically cheating on me getting everything she craves (his attention, listening agreeing with everything she says and gratifying her) but she just does not need sex with him and therefore she considers this not to be a cheating. Then it all made sense why she chose to marry me not this soft guy. She apparently was dating him at the time when we were dating, he had carved a heart from stone and carved their initial letters in it. She thought that it was funny to throw this stone in nearby lake and dump him. All her other boyfriends also were emotional and soft nice guys. I however was also a nice guy but I also teased and harassed her and I also was doing sports and being a macho and rough. So she loved my vulnerable side but also my rough side, which at that time resembled her crazy father a lot. Those guys however were clearly too soft for her character. She actually appears to have had many guys spending time with her when we were dating and she had dumped them all and later felt very sad about having to spend time with a single guy (me). She basically used them for her gratification but did not see men in the other guys. She is dominating and aggressive in everyday life but when really horny she becomes sexually submissive. So she needs a submissive man for her everyday gratification of her aggressive and dominating nature, but she also craves the rough side in men for physical intimacy. At least these are my conclusions.
And (lets call him "Mark" which would be transliteration into English) she also said that she feels bad that I was lashing out at the "innocent and poor nice Mark". So I think being so defensive also tells quite a bit about how strong her feelings are. She is also in the same way so defensive when talking about me to others. It feels as if she has this feeling of love when she protects the "boys she own". So even though she does not have sex with him it is a 100% love triangle. She basically considers that she "owns" him already.
So I've found myself in a very interesting situation. However in my consideration all that has come from this is a good thing. I've lost 5kg due to stress about all of this, I've been doing a lot of sports to calm my mind, and I am having really intense and interesting period in my life, and the relationship with my Wife is having a new spark and we have become much more closer and open about our feelings. The only downside I would say is big problems in focusing on my job, but from experience I will overcome it in a month or two.
