The Gentle Domme
Oh boy this makes me happy. Happy that you love this piece because it describes the problems associated with labels around a Dominant woman and her loving, devoted man. Common labels tell people that submissive men are all beta sissies, for example. No we all are not. Some are, and that's their thing and that's a beautiful thing for that couple. Common labels tell people that a Wife Led Marriage is leather clad wives and meek, scared and dysfunctional men.
I love her blog. Always have. It's one of my favorite blogs that shows up on the list of blogs I like to read on my own blog precisely because she isn't full of shit.
I'd be lying if I didn't admit that I am enjoying the addition of more Femdom conversation from you and others here Emma. Perhaps as an emerging Domme in a budding FLR, you're evolving as well?
I certainly am evolving with the help of everyone here on this site. Hell, this blog is probably more about me evolving than anyone although it started as a blog to chronicle my journey with Kevin. When I read some of my older blogs, they are so prescriptive. DO THIS, THIS IS THE WAY, YOU MUST DO IT MY WAY.
Now as I've learned and matured, it is more about listening, communicating and working together to determine the best way for each couple.
I love that we are all learning and growing together on this journey.
Hell, this blog is probably more about me evolving than anyone although it started as a blog to chronicle my journey with Kevin. When I read some of my older blogs, they are so prescriptive. DO THIS, THIS IS THE WAY, YOU MUST DO IT MY WAY.
Not probably, this blog IS all about you Emma ... as it should be. And it's wonderful! You, and your journey with Kevin (and now also Andrew) is why we are all here.
I have always felt that the best possible environment for a truly, madly deeply kind of love between a man and a woman is one that is based in the woman's control of the mans sex .. his body ... his penis. Whether we like it or not, such a relationship is indeed a Female Led Relationship or Wife Led Marriage because the man submits to his woman's control.
Much of what is written about or shown in pictures about FLR/WLM is porn fueled fantasy bullshit that feeds on the notion of a woman in this kind of relationship is nothing more than a fetish peddler for the man and so it gets a bad rap for those entering into and developing a FLR/WLM. What is mostly talked about is the sexual kinky aspects of such a relationship. Those fail to encompass the necessary ingredients of a truly loving, truly beautiful aspects of a FLR/WLM, and that being the genuine joy that the man gets from living in service, in submission to the woman he loves.
With the stereotype version of FLR/WLM comes the inaccurate belief that the man is always weak, always treated like shit, always a tiny-dicked, useless version of what a real man is supposed to be ... always secretly hating his humiliation and subjugation to his wife. I'm living, breathing proof that none of that is true because when comes to a genuine loving FLR/WLM the level of trust, respect and desire that each person has for each other is an essential ingredient in a truly beautiful relationship.
Based on what you reveal about your life here, Kevin is your submissive, and on a different level, so is Andrew. There is no other way to accurately define it for them, which an amazingly beautiful thing and not something that requires explanation or definition to those that don't or can't understand the difference between the porn fueled label and the reality of a beautiful loving relationship where the woman leads.
Each couple's journey is unique to them. All of the WLM/FLR relationships that are a success (Yours, Diane J., Mz Kaylee, Ms. and myself, and others) have one thing in common. A man that genuine receives pleasure from being in service to his woman for the purpose of her joy and pleasure in life ... and a woman that understands that in him, nurtures that and truly loves him for it. Everyone's relationship is unique in terms of what their roles look like, and each should not only be supported but celebrated ... regardless of what labels may be put on them.
Your emergence a Dominant woman in a loving, beautiful FLR is predictable and a beautiful thing to see. You are doing fantastic work here Emma, and because of it the love between men and women in relationship grows deeper and more beautiful everyday.