Question for the men about cuckolding.

For me, the idea represents a perverse and masochistic thrill: being displaced by a better and more able performer. My wife and I are strictly monogamous and the notion of another man "taking what is mine" in front me, particularly if I am observing and caged, elicits a strong chemical reaction whenever I picture it. It's definitely not something I wish to make a reality, but I think playing with the fantasy and using sex toys to simulate it can be fun. We've been trying this for a few months, and it has helped enliven our sex life. I'd add that I didn't have such ideas or fantasies only a few years ago, and at one point I didn't understand why anyone would. But I suppose if you stay in a long-term relationship for long enough, and maybe if you're bored enough like we were/are, the idea can be something novel and erotically triggering. But actually acting on this fantasy I don't think would be healthy for our relationship, and neither of us has an interest in doing so. 

Being involved, either directly or by her telling me about it during or afterwards..and the other thing I find completely erotic is our sex together afterwards….there’s nothing else like it

Using toys as a substitute for the fantasy has soo many applications to make it fun for both. She could give the toy a very manly name, she could play the I need to feel a real man card and make her husband use it on her, she could make him watch from a chair & really make a point of the pleasure she's getting,  she could make him listen outside the bedroom door, she could do a long tease & denial, and then goto the toy to drive home the fantasy, she could get all dolled up for a date, wear sexy lingerie she normally wouldn't wear for her husband, and all thru the date with her husband do a lot of teasing things, to drive him crazy, and when they get home have the husband undress her, & then send him to the spare bedroom for the night & goto town very loudly.  If SPH I'd also part of their scene she can also include that.

Posted by: @evolvingyourman_ivcr4j

What do you seek from your cuckold fantasy? What sorts of things would you find most arousing in a cuckold experience?

The naughtiness of it; my wife being naughty and more sexually dominant. 
My wife wants to let herself go wild but she holds back. I desire for her to experience really great sex without worrying about getting pregnant. To watch my wife be very erotic would be very exciting.

Posted by: @evolvingyourman_ivcr4j

What do you seek from your cuckold fantasy? What sorts of things would you find most arousing in a cuckold experience?

The joy on my wife's face first and foremost!

Currently my biggest fantasy is for her to find a good lover. The past years wasn't that successful and I know/feel that she really misses having an intelligent, good looking sex friend in her life.

Once she has found one, all my other wishes will become relevant again.

For me the cuckold fantasy is about my wife being totally satisfied in a way I just simply cannot do. Her eyes lighting up when she sees him, the laughter when she's with him, the "school girl smile" when she has been satisfied by him. These are things I seek for her and I get my pleasure when I see her engulfed in her lover.

I would always buy her sexy clothes to wear when she traveled without me. When we were out I would always point out the guys checking her out. Always let her know how sexy she is.

The most arousing thing would be for her to take it from fantasy to reality. We've had the MMF nights before. She has had sex away from me in the past. Maybe that's what planted the seed inside me. At this point in our lives I often think about her taking on a full time lover(s). Someone she can go with whenever, wherever. Someone to give her that "spark" if you will.

I always call her my Hotwife and have let her know that I want to be her Cuck. At the end of the day she is hesitant and it is just my fantasy. I'm not pushy, but she does get reminders. She knows that she can have whatever guy she chooses and doesn't have to ask, my permission was granted years ago.

If I were to seek a cuckholding experience with my partner I would like:

Direct feedback of her pleasure (eye contact, continuous verbal confirmation)

Holding hands and kissing while she is being pleasured

Aftercare (hugging, snuggling, pillow talk, possible gentle sex)

1. My direct participation would be fun, but not a priority or necessary.

her smile.

@leemarcum

To see her enjoy another man and yet still be committed to me!

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What do you seek from your cuckold fantasy? What sorts of things would you find most arousing in a cuckold experience?

IMHO - Cuckolding is the highest level of female domination over her husband or B/F. He has little choice but to watch as the woman he lusts for rejects him in favor of a more desirable male. Watching her with another man while he's locked in a chastity cage simply intensifies the experience - especially if she chooses to sit or lay with him in close intimate contact. while denying him release from the cage.

Wouldnt say I ama  cuck myself. I am more of a stag. My wife and I have been in the swingers lifestyle for about 4 years now. There is something incredibly fun and sexy about watching other men do my wife in my own house on my own bed right in front of me as I watch from the corner of the room. Comperssion truly spices up the experience a lot. I would also say, watching my wife have a great time with other men is so satisfying and sexy .