Can you build a fetish in your guy thorough operant conditioning? Operant conditioning is a type of learning where behavior is controlled by consequences. You can read more about operant conditioning here.
The question with this blog isn’t about operant conditioning but rather if you can create a sexual fetish by conditioning him to sexualize something that is non-sexual. Don’t bother skipping to the bottom because spoiler alert, I don’t have an answer.
Sexual fetishes can be very normal or can be very weird. It would be fair to say that a guy with a butt fetish if fairly normal and a guy with a foot fetish would be slightly less normal although not completely abnormal. For the purpose of this article, the definition of “normal” is defined by the acceptibility within society. Personally, I could care less if you have an earlobe or sneeze fetish.
First, what is a fetish?
A fetish is something, such as a material object or nonsexual part of the body, that arouses sexual desire and may become necessary for sexual gratification.
The medical community describes a fetish as a paraphilia:
Paraphilia (previously known as sexual perversion and sexual deviation) is the experience of intense sexual arousal to atypical objects, situations, fantasies, behaviors, or individuals. Such attraction may be labeled sexual fetishism.
Wait, sexual perversion? Perverts? What are all of these words? Actually the medical definition of perversion isn’t what you might think:
Sexual perversions are conditions in which sexual excitement or orgasm is associated with acts or imagery that are considered unusual within the culture.
So we’ve established that paraphelia, fetish and sexual perversion all pretty much mean the same thing. The question now is, how do I create one and what should I create? I love Kevin and obviously he is going to be my subject for this, what should I create? Perhaps I ask him to bury his nose in my belly button when I allow him to release his seed. Maybe I only allow him to release while his head is covered in a blanket, or while yelling insults at him (kidding of course, we keep things very positive).
I do request that he ask permission before ejaculating and he has been permitted to ejaculate without me a few times in the last few months and said that the finds it hard to ejaculate without receiving my verbal permission late in the game.
Maybe I’ll do something like this and maybe I won’t but I wonder if a guy will develop a strong sexual connection if he is only allowed to ejaculate while receiving a certain sort of stimuli. Thus, I would think create a sexual fetish within him. Seems far fetched but if his brain builds a positive sexual connection between those two seemingly unrelated things, will he have developed a genuine fetish?
Update: One of our fantastic readers just told me that Sex Nerd Sandra did a podcast about this very subject back in 2017. If this blog got your attention, I highly recommend her podcast.