We've never experienced one of these but I can't wait until I am able to help Kevin experience one. Or two. Or three. In my quest to help guide him on his journey to a prostate orgasm, I've compiled information to share with all of you lovely folks.
A prostate orgasm is a pleasurable experience that a man can achieve by stimulating his prostate gland externally or via his rectum. A prostate orgams is distinct from a penile orgasm. A prostate orgasm can feel more intense and can be felt through the entire body, shaking and convulsing. These kinds of orgasms can be prolonged with sustained stimulation of the prostate and there is no refraction period between orgasms like there is with a penile orgasm. Women that can orgasm from penetration and from clitoral stimulation are used to having two separate types of orgasm types.
The prostate is located on the wall between the penis and the rectum.
The pubococcygeus muscle or PC muscle controls urine flow, contracts during orgasm and assists in ejaculation. A stronger PC muscle will help your body eject semen with more force when you ejaculate. For most people this muscle contracts when you clench your anus but you can learn to recognize and control it separately.
This is going to take time. You might need to enjoy prostate stimulation without orgasm for months before anything happens. Prostate stimulation without orgasm is still very pleasurable in itself. The real magic happens as you learn to understand when your prostate is stimulated. Learning about your body will help you in your quest to find the elusive prostate orgasm.
Repeatedly exercise to help your brain adapt to associate prostate stimulation with pleasure. Don't give up as it does take time to rewire your brain to allow it to associate the prostate with orgasm. …
It’s an amazing experience. In my case, I’ve been on all fours with my lover holding the dildo. Experimented with angles and speed. And then just being patient. I don’t recall how long things took to escalate but I’d guess 10-20 minutes. And then once they did I wasn’t really capable of speech. And completely agree with steps 3 and 4. I was so stunned I don’t know what would happened if we’d try to do it again right away., step 5. We’ll have to try and report back.
By the way, we’ve tried several times since then. And for one reason or another, it hasn’t been the same. All the planets need to be aligned. But definitely an amazing experience.
This sounds wonderful, I’d love to be able to take him on this journey. How do prostate orgasms impact retention and chastity in your relationship?
Hi Emma,
Great article – does an excellent job of describing the stages. I have experienced this a few times but only with the help of a skilled tantric masseuse. Each time the build up took about an hour which consisted of deep breathing, vocalization of feelings, massage of key points on my body to both relax and stimulate me (massage of the penis root below the skin with v-shaped fingers from behind was great) including external massage of the prostate in the “taint” area. The p-wave sensations finally generated are spectacular – completely different than a n orgasm from penis stimulation. It felt like incredible waves of pleasure emanating from my core, outward throughout my body with a sensation of energy exiting from fingers and toes and radiating from my trunk. I was shaking when each pleasure wave hit and shivering in between the waves (the troughs?). The final massage position was me on my back, legs drawn up and spread with my tantric masseuse seated between my legs, her legs over and intertwined with mine to bring herself close and give her leverage. With two fingers inside me me she alternated massage of the outer prostate lobes with rhythmic pulsing along the edges of it (the prostate center is too sensitive for this and is painful). While doing that she used the heel of her other hand to press and massage the prostate from the outside, using spread fingers along the outside of the genitals to stimulate just the deep root of the penis. Unlike a penis orgasm that lasts perhaps four or five contractions – maybe ten seconds, the prostate orgasm lasted minutes and left me feeling alive, buzzing almost glowing. I always scheduled the session for an hour and a half because the ride back down from that high was so emotionally pleasurable.
Wow. Can you imagine if this was your job? Providing this kind of tantric pleasure to people and having them pay for it. This sounds incredible.
I’d love to give one of these sessions to Kevin, how do you find a service provider like this? I just did a search for tantric massage but didn’t see this as a listed service. I assume this sort of thing doesn’t fall within the laws around legal massage so it might be harder to locate someone.
Besides the quivering and the “ohmygodwhatjusthappened” aftershock, there’s really no impact for us. I think there’s something unique at my end in that my focus and behavior doesn’t really change significantly. Obviously during the refractory period there are some changes but otherwise it’s all good.
Wow!
My Love and I have tried on many occasions, with many different techniques and have never quite succeeded. We can get very close, but can’t seem to get “over the edge” without a bit of penile stimulation. Having done a lot of surfing/reading about it, we have come to the conclusion that a prostrate orgasm is similar to squirting or PIV only orgasm (i.e. no clitoral stimulation) for women – definitely happens for some, but not for all.
We will keep practicing though :).
For those of you that have had a prostate orgasm, how does it differ from an orgasm where your prostate and penis are stimulated at the same time? I’ve never had a prostate orgasm but the orgasms I’ve had where both my prostate and penis were simultaneously stimulated have been very intense. Is it more intense than that for you or is it a different type of feeling or both? I’m very curious. Thanks in advance for sharing your experiences!
I think loss of control. Almost like involuntary muscle contractions. At least for me. Such a unique experience you’re kind of not sure what’s happening.
Emma (and all of you who have shared you amazing prostate orgasm experiences) – thank you!
As a woman, I know that when I experience a g-spot orgasm it is so intense and amazing, so I really want MyPlaything to have this deep and powerful experience through prostate orgasm, which I do think sounds very similar. We often include his prostate in our playtime but this time, we tried something different. We left him in his cage to remove any ability (temptation?) to play with his cock. Then, with him in a yoga pose commonly referred to as “Child’s Pose”, I gently began inserting my fingers into his anus and stroking his prostate. He gave me good feedback re speed, pressure, depth. This got him very aroused and I could feel his muscles clench. After about 10 minutes, I inserted this great vibrator we have that has just the right girth and depth to hit his prostate and stimulate it without fatiguing my fingers. The sensations became even more intense for him. I had him roll over onto his back and pull his legs up, now in the “Happy baby” pose and we spent about 20-30 minutes with me simply stroking his prostate with the vibrator – no penile or ball stim of any kind. He continued to give me feedback so that I could make very small adjustments to pressure, speed and depth – VERY small. It became extremely intense for him and he oozed a sizeable amount of pre-cum – more than he ever has before without penile stimulation (although hard to tell fully how much with the cage on). It was so arousing for me too! I chose to stop at this point, although I think he would have been happy to go all night. ;).
We are going to continue this exploration tomorrow night but with his cage off for two reasons. The first is so I can better see how much he oozes (and maybe have him clean it up). The second is to see if the cage restricting his erection also restricted his ability to relax enough to orgasm . Still no touching his cock though!
I am so looking forward to this. Stay tuned…
Yes, I wanted it to never end. Even though I did not orgasm, it was intense.
My progression of sensations went from relaxing, to arousal, to feeling as if I needed to pee, to getting close to a climax (9/10) … but I just couldn’t get there. It would not have taken much attention to my cock to have me cum.
One thing My Love did not mention is that she has told me that my next orgasm will be a prostrate orgasm, no matter how long it takes! That both excites me a lot and scares me a little bit.
I am a very lucky man!
Update – DPlaything’s prostate orgasm – in case you’re curious…
Well, after some pretty intense play sessions – in the cage. Last night, we decided to leave him out of the cage while I pleasured his prostate. It’s been almost a month since his last orgasm so he was in this place of an exquisite and excruciating need to cum. We got very, very close and I allowed some light stroking of his cock but he just couldn’t reach that final place of release. Finally, I decided it was time so I sat on him and, with our favourite prostate vibrator stimulating within him, he had an amazingly intense orgasm. In the 23 years we’ve been together, I honestly don’t think he’s ever had one that was as forceful and extended. Although it wasn’t a “pure” prostate orgasm it was very satisfying all around. Will definitely do this again!
3: Trembling and penis reaction
The penis needs to be uncaged during this phase, in order to allow erections, or not?