We’ve never experienced one of these but I can’t wait until I am able to help Kevin experience one. Or two. Or three. In my quest to help guide him on his journey to a prostate orgasm, I’ve compiled information to share with all of you lovely folks.
What is a prostate orgasm?
A prostate orgasm is a pleasurable experience that a man can achieve by stimulating his prostate gland externally or via his rectum. A prostate orgams is distinct from a penile orgasm. A prostate orgasm can feel more intense and can be felt through the entire body, shaking and convulsing. These kinds of orgasms can be prolonged with sustained stimulation of the prostate and there is no refraction period between orgasms like there is with a penile orgasm. Women that can orgasm from penetration and from clitoral stimulation are used to having two separate types of orgasm types.
Where is the prostate?
The prostate is located on the wall between the penis and the rectum.
The Pubococcygeus Muscle
The pubococcygeus muscle or PC muscle controls urine flow, contracts during orgasm and assists in ejaculation. A stronger PC muscle will help your body eject semen with more force when you ejaculate. For most people this muscle contracts when you clench your anus but you can learn to recognize and control it separately.
Let’s get started!
This is going to take time. You might need to enjoy prostate stimulation without orgasm for months before anything happens. Prostate stimulation without orgasm is still very pleasurable in itself. The real magic happens as you learn to understand when your prostate is stimulated. Learning about your body will help you in your quest to find the elusive prostate orgasm.
Repeatedly exercise to help your brain adapt to associate prostate stimulation with pleasure. Don’t give up as it does take time to rewire your brain to allow it to associate the prostate with orgasm.
While pegging is a great way to experience prostate pleasures, solo play can be fun too. Prostate massagers and other anal toys for men are designed to perfectly hit that p-spot and taking the time in a quiet relaxing environment is the best way to familiarize yourself with your body. Don’t go in to prostate play with the expectation of reaching an orgasm, simply play with yourself and learn which parts of your body feel good and which parts of your body feel not so good. Once you know about yourself, you can direct your partner when you are both playing together.
Relaxation is essential to prostate orgasms. Mental relaxation and letting go of expectations will get you on your way to experiencing one of these bad boys. If you are anxious and new to anal stimulation, it is going to take a while for your body to start accepting pleasure from your bottom. The same learning experience will go into learning pleasure from your prostate.
Take a shower, do some yoga or do some breathing exercises prior to prostate play. You may want to do some self-play rather than expecting your first prostate orgasm to happen from a pegging session.
The stimulation can be done with fingers, dildo or a specialized vibrating prostate toy. You might need to explore different toys and positions to find what works for you and your body.
Another thing that seems to play a part in prostate enjoyment is infrequent ejaculations. The longer that you’ve gone without an orgasm, the better the chance that you can have a prostate orgasm and enjoy prostate play in general. Sorry Kevin, yet another reason to stay on our release schedule.
I feel my prostate, now what?
Keep in mind that your body will need to learn these steps and grow comfortable with each of them. It is very possible that it will take quite some time to get to the first or second stage. If you get to stage three, you may regress back to stage two and back to stage one. That is completely normal and you need to be ok with experiencing whatever pleasure you are able to attain. If you put too much pressure on yourself, you will struggle with prostate stimulation.
Contractions are the first signs of something happening. The PC muscles and sphincter contract. These are known as peristaltic contractions. These are involuntary and give a feeling of fullness in the rectum area and muscles. Your penis will probably go flaccid, make sure that you are focusing your mind on your prostate and ignoring your penis.
- Sensations in pelvis
You will start feeling a hard swelling and muscle tension near the prostate. The tension will fee like it is behind the public bone and will feel weird and warm at first. Concentrate on that feeling and learn to focus your mind there. As your level of focus increases, the feelings will get more intense and pleasurable.
- Trembling and penis reaction
As buildup occurs, the whole body may start to tremble. This may feel distracting at first but just roll with it. This feeling means that your body is getting closer to a prostate orgasm. The penis will get erect at this stage but don’t focus on your penis, allow it to get hard or soft as your body goes through the process of prostate stimulation. Your penis may even feel like you are ejaculating several times as your prostate continues to receive stimulation. It is important that you refrain from touching yourself as it will distract your mind and cause the feelings to subside.
- Release and intense waves
The buildup that you experienced in phase three will release and your PC muscles will contract. The stimulation on the PC muscle will cause it to contract and you will feel a warm glow feeling from your prostate. Feelings of pleasure will radiate from your prostate through your body, these waves of pleasure or p-waves can occur even earlier. The waves can vary in intensity just like a penile orgasm but they radiate from inside the body outward rather than inward like a penile orgasm.
- Refractory period
This is the fun part. There isn’t a refractory period like there is with a penile orgasm. You can keep going like a multiorgasmic woman without any delay. Your penis may go from hard to soft during this entire process but it doesn’t have any impact on your ability to experience prostate orgasms.
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I hope you’ve found this useful and please remember that I am not biologically capable of experiencing a prostate orgasm so I’ve done the best I can to compile instructions and information for you. Take what you want from this and add any tips that you might have for experiencing a prostate orgasm. I’ll update this article if and when Kevin ever gets there but we regardless of outcome, enjoy the journey!