Relationships: A Stay at Home Dad’s Tale

Vikter is a reader and frequent forum contributor that has incorporated some of the principles that I promote in the blog such as male orgasm control and pegging. Additionally, Vikter has also taken on a role of stay at home dad/house husband. In a comment on the blog entitled "Real Men Don't Have Penises", I asked that he contribute his Journey and he excitedly agreed. Without further ado, here is the story of Vikter's journey taking on the househusband role!

Here are the answer to your questions. It got a bit lengthy, but it is a deep topic. I am certainly not an expert on this topic, it has just been a part of my everyday life for the last 2 years in some way. I hope it offers some insight for you, at the very least it was certainly cathartic to get alot of these thoughts in one place and sparked some good conversation with my wife.

I was raised in an Irish-American catholic  household. Both of my parents worked and my grandparents watched me and my siblings.  My parents have a good relationship (still married past 60 is doing something right). Strong female figures have featured through my life, where as most of the men in my family (myself included) have had some level of catastrophic break at one point or another. Through those events, it was universally the women in our families that held things together. With me being the youngest during those times I undoubtedly see that as a defining factor in my general submissive nature toward women. 
I spent 11 of the last 13 years working my way through the culinary ranks. I am very good at what I do and obtained a small amount of local recognition but the industry is consuming... sex, drugs, and alcohol addiction run rampant. Recently my wife admitted to always just assuming I had cheated on her at some point because of the nature of food service. I never have and never could, though it was offered by coworkers. Food service destroys relationships, and my work poisoned ours slowly causing rifts we only just discovered and talked about now, years later.

   We have covered the spectrum here as well, we have both worked and shared parental/ household chores, she has been a stay at home mom (and hated the isolation of it). Even when we both worked, she took the lions share of the household duties, the kitchen has always been my domain. In day to day life, we have always been on equal footing, decisions made together. Rarely did we argue, we both saw enough of that growing up, mostly discussions to get through problems. To both of us, seeing our partner happy has been the priority.

Previously we had sex when I and how I wanted. She has admitted that sometimes she only did so to "keep me happy". I feel like I could tell when she felt that way but didn't let myself see it. 

Our son had an an adjustment period wondering why momma was not around as much, that was pretty quick though. Small kids are incredibly resilient and don't have have bias about role. It also helped that I watched my son most mornings while my wife worked an early morning job. No friends commented on it, a few parents and preschool teachers did. Mostly the teachers were very supportive, we selected that school because of their inclusive nature. Most of the moms were surprised that it was a full time arraignment and not that I was just in charge of school drop offs. No one was offended, a few commented they were jealous. They were mostly career women who put their life on pause to be a mom. …