The question that has been asked a million times in a million different ways. I am not going to attempt to answer it because the question shouldn't need to be asked in a relationship with proper communication. This isn't about what I want for dinner, this is about the traits that I find attractive.
The question I am going to answer is what women want from a very general standpoint in a relationship. I am speaking for myself of course so ladies, please feel free to contribute.
First some background. Over what has been nearly a year, I have been living with two beautiful boys. My long time boyfriend Kevin and our friend Andrew. Both of them are incredible and I enjoy different things about both of them. This doesn't mean that their traits together would make the perfect man because that isn't the case. Both of them are perfect on their own but I find some of their individual traits attractive. I am not out searching for something new but we've had very open conversations and connected on a deeply emotional and honest level. As you continue reading, understand that this is my journey of self realization not a pros and cons between the two amazing people. I don't want either of them to change, not one bit.
I want to feel emotionally safe. I want to feel like I can be my normal goofy self and have a guy who gets me at that level but also gets me on every other level. I want to feel secure that he won't judge me for the silly things that I inevitably say and do. I want a man who offers unconditional acceptance, encouragement and no judgement or criticism. This is the absolute definition of Kev! We are besties and we have a deeper emotional connection than I could ever ask for.
I want a man who is physically attractive. I want a man with nice shoulders, abs, chiseled facial features, nice teeth and dark luxurious hair. I want a guy who dresses nicely and is well groomed and is a strong rough and tough guy. This usually comes along with feeling like you are whisked off your feet and don't have to think on your own. You are company to his sense of freedom, both emotionally and literally. Andrew is a classically more attractive guy with a firm tummy and more chiseled facial features and Kev's face with beautiful deep eyes is attractive enough to be sexy.
I am being real here. Women want guys who are either financially secure or have a work ethic that will ensure that they won't go hungry. This is about emotional maturity and priorities more than it is about driving a fancy car and having a nice house. While it is easy to get caught up in expensive gifts and fancy dinners, it is about feeling like he provides a home. None of us truly financially secure but we all do alright. When I see guys who flaunt their money, I find myself disliking him without even giving him a chance. I immediately assume he is a total douche. With that said, a wealthy guy with other traits is certainly a plus.…
