Hello, fabulous readers! Today, we’re diving into a practice that may be new to some but is transformative for those looking to deepen their intimacy: orgasm control. While we often focus on achieving physical satisfaction in relationships, intimacy can reach even greater heights by exploring emotional and spiritual connections. This isn’t about abstaining from sex or reducing intimacy—in fact, it’s about redefining sex in your relationship to unlock a whole new level of emotional closeness and control. For those gamers out there: it is like a cheat code for intimacy and closeness. Think of it as a mating pedal and a bonding pedal; which pedal do you want to push tonight?
Today we will walk through how orgasm control can enhance your relationship, the power dynamics it can create, and how it can empower both you and your partner. We’ll also explore the benefits of a concept called karezza and learn how taking control of his orgasm can open doors to deeper communication, trust, and connection.
First, let’s get clear on what we’re talking about. Karezza is a practice that emphasizes bonding, connection, and emotional intimacy over reaching climax. Derived from the Italian word “carezza,” meaning “caress,” karezza shifts the focus of sex from orgasm to connection. Couples engaged in karezza might prolong their intimate experiences without the goal of orgasm, savoring the closeness and intensity of the moment.
Orgasm control, on the other hand, is a practice in which one partner (typically the wife) controls the frequency and circumstances of her husband’s orgasm. This can mean anything from occasional denial, increased frequency to timing of his releases. Importantly, orgasm control does not mean limiting sex; instead, it’s about removing the expectation that he will climax every time, opening up space for a whole new type of closeness.
Many couples find that taking orgasm off the table shifts the entire experience of intimacy. Studies show that sexual satisfaction often has more to do with emotional closeness than physical orgasm. Research published in Psychological Science reveals that sexual afterglow—that lingering sense of satisfaction and closeness—lasts for days after sex, enhancing emotional bonding in couples. Karezza and orgasm control can help a couple communicate in deeper ways, building trust and affection beyond physical satisfaction. This can strengthen the bond within the relationship bond and heighten respect, empathy, and intimacy.
Orgasm control doesn’t just change the dynamics in the bedroom—it shifts the emotional landscape of your relationship, too. For the partner taking control, it can feel incredibly empowering. You’re in control of the most intimate aspect of your partner’s pleasure, which fosters a deeper level of trust and connection.…
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This (honor system) approach to denying his orgasm can work well for awhile, but as time passes and his sexual urges build up, she would be wise to keep the locking chastity cage ready for use. Very few men will resist the urge to masturbate, especially when in close intimate contact with a lady on a regular basis. Karezza is a very good thing but will only be effective if his orgasms are restricted to times when she gives permission for them.
The Honour system works well for me and my wife, i won’t go into too much detail here but she knows if i have cheated, which has only happened on a couple of occasions and not for over three years now.. every couple is different though