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Gteat article Emma! I love the routine and it all sounds so comforting and loving. Friday funday sounds particularly great.
I’m wondering how the routine changes when you add add another lover. Do the moods, anticipation and intimacy change? How does it change when you add a cuckolding vibe or other kinks?
The routine doesn’t change all that much when we have a guest over and it absolutely never interferes with Sunday evenings. We make that time very important to both of us. I think having a friend over really just helps in terms of teasing and overall arousal. Kev is always more eager to please later in the week though. Strange, that.
u realy r an expert
Yay thank you!
Thanks for the insight Emma.
Is that just the routine for Kev? What about pleasure for you?
That is an entirely different blog but don’t worry, I’ve got something along those lines in my drafts folder!
Always nice to leave for a while and come back to find so much new content, great writings.
The weekly write up sounds like a good routine and I like the way you change things up on Sundays.
plus I’m a sucker for a good pun, Day Two – Two’s Day. nice.
Thank you, I am super punny!
Thank you for the article, very informative.
Is he sleeping all nights with the cage on, with only the Sunday night free?
Does he have issue with sleep quality when he is caged?
He is perfectly fine most nights but when caged he usually needs to get up in the middle of the night to pee so the morning wood will go away. It took some getting used to for both of us since it wakes us both up briefly most nights. I love him crawling back into bed, wrapping his arms around me and the feeling of security of his cage pressed up against me.
Also yes, just Sunday nights free as a bird.
Love this one Emma. I’d be lying if i didn’t admit that every Sunday would be so fun.
As we are all different in how we live our WLM’s, over the many years (12) of Ms. K. being in charge, the frequency of my orgasms/ejaculations has evolved (see what I did there?). I was accustomed to a similar frequency of orgasm as Kev’s in the beginning and for several years. Over time, Ms. K. began to curtail the frequency of full-on orgasms in favor of ruined orgasms because she rather enjoyed my continued state of arousal and desire that never waned after a ruined orgasms. Then, as time went on, the instances of full-on orgasms reduced to 2-3 per years while she also cutback on the frequency of ruined orgasms to 5-7 per year. During all of this time and now, we have each enjoyed sexy time more than we ever have in our 24 (married 22) years together. Of course she enjoys orgasms EWVERY SINGLE TIME!
More recently Ms. K. has allowed/instructed me to remove my cage more often for sex. Sometimes it’s to properly tease and deny an uncaged, erect cock. Other times it is because she wants me to penetrate her and fuck her until I cum, She says she gets nostalgic for when were young lovers and wants to revisit seeing me orgasm while we are face to face. Comparatively speaking … I’m cumming with a full orgasms as much as a rabbit. So far this year (8 1/2 months), I’ve had 6 full-on orgasms, and of course I’ve loved every single one of them.
As you may recall, I’ve been (mostly) permanently caged for almost 2 years now. I don’t know if there is a correlation, but now, when I am allowed/instructed to have a full-on orgasm in any fashion, there doesn’t seem to be a refractory period. I don’t know why that is. Maybe its the nearly permanent cage confinement, or perhaps its because we have achieved a depth in our WLM that helps that along. I don’t know why, and frankly I don’t care why. It’s awesome.
All of this beautiful existence was all made possible by the one thing we (and most others I presume) strictly adhered to in the beginning … orgasm denial!
That is wonderful. I think the key (see what I did there?) is for every couple to know what their tools are and experiment until they find what works for them. As our bodies change, desires waver, life happens, menopause hits then we simply adapt the sexual side of our relationship like we do with the social and emotional side. So many couples are stuck in a sexual rut or have sexual expectations which create resentment from one or both sides. Understanding the way our sex drives work, the blurred lines and being able to separate society’s expectations from your own perfect relationship is the key to an evolved marriage. Cheers to everyone on this site who is willing to embrace non-traditional relationship tools. I can’t imagine missing some of the emotional experiences and conversations that Kev and I have enjoyed over the last few years. Some of them have been absolutely joyful, some have been downright painful and unpleasant but every last one has brought us closer together.
Men need and desire structure, real man retain and practice semen retention and non ejaculatory orgasm. This practice has many benefits for men and women as you mentioned in your posts. Men become more loving, caring,attentive,chivalrous, thing and take care more about their ladies needs, their behaviour improves. In relationship where man retains woman is loved, cherished, respected,honoured and worshipped as a Queen. I thing it’s a shame that so many women have bad sex because their men don’t want to retain and use them as masturbation aid. Women who respect and honour themselves should introduce semen retention to their men. Women merit pleasurable, satisfying sex where they are loved cherished and respected. There are many sex experts and coaches who teach and explain how men can have sex and orgasms without ejaculation. Jackhammering, ejaculating and falling asleep, without foreplay and cunnilingus, is demeaning and degrading sex experience theat women who are not spineless, who love, honour and respect themselves should not let men treat them in this disrespectful way.It’s a pain to clean ap all the mess, squat over the toilet scooping cum and have semen coming out of you for an hour afterwards, to be leaky for long time, take birth control.
You can avoid all this mess and problems when you have a loving man who practice semen retention. When man is not concentrated just on his ejaculation he can give his beloved lady most pleasure and the best multiple squirting,a-spot,g- spot and many other different orgasms that woman can experience with attentive lover who retains and respects her and her needs. When man retains he is ful of energy and he craves to please and worship his lady. Women are like water they need more time to get aroused explain tantra and tao. Man who retains spend much more time to arouse and please his woman from head to toes, he always gives good cunnilingus, before penetrative sex. When you ride his dick or face you should worry that he will ejac and fell asleep drained and exhausted and leaving you neglected and unsatisfied. You can choose perfect angle,speed,depth and ride him as much as you desire and receive amazing multiple orgasms that you merit, and your man is present, attentive and caring lover that respects you and your needs. There are many good benefits for women to introduce semen retention to their men. So ladies it’s up to you to decide what kind of relationship do you want and desire.
When gentleman retains and has structure his solder is to better use for a woman:he gets harder,stronger,bigger erection ,last longer and is ful of chi energy that attracts women. Mens with dick who retain are much more attractive to women than free weak ejaculators dick who last few minutes and fell asleep exhausted and drained. I thing it’s obvious which penis ladies choose. If you want to be loved,honoured,cherished and respected you should love, honour and respect yourself first. In relationships where gentlemen practice orgasm control, their ladies are cherished, respected,honoured and treated like Queens. Women like Yoga Girl, Emma and other ladies who know what they need and merit, who are self confident, strong women who respect themselves give structure and expect their men to practice semen retention and non ejaculatory sex in relationship.
That was a very insightful post Emma!
It’s given me a few ideas to try in terms of my own retention practice while single and you’re definitly right about how it benefits us. I’ve been in one relationship before which was very traditional and have been skeptical about looking for an FLR due to misconceptions thinking it was only a sexual kink, however after reading some of your posts it seems incredibly empowering! I’ll be sure to introduce my future partner to this.
Did you ever write about “ What about pleasure for you”? I really want to read that!!