Playing With Fire: Are Cuckold Marriages Relationship Suicide?

When I tell people that Kev and I are in a cuckold relationship, I often get the same reaction—uncomfortable laughter, a blend of shock, curiosity, and maybe even a little judgment. Clearly, I'm not telling everyone but it is a topic that comes up in appropriate situations and audiences. They wonder how we make it work, and for some, the idea of adding another person to the dynamic seems like a recipe for disaster. And I get it. On the surface, cuckolding seems like playing with fire, and in some cases, it really can be. It’s not for everyone, and it certainly isn’t something you can dive into lightly.

So today, I want to take a moment to play devil’s advocate and look at the darker side of this dynamic. What happens when things don’t go as planned? What if this whole cuckold thing becomes relationship suicide? Let’s take a deep dive into the risks, what could go wrong, and why—despite all of this—it could also be one of the most strengthening experiences for a couple.

Before we get into the scary stuff, let’s remind ourselves why people like me—like us—are drawn to this dynamic in the first place. A cuckold relationship can create some pretty powerful pros.

For starters, it can heighten the intimacy between partners. There's a vulnerability in opening up about what turns you on, especially when it involves something as complex as cuckolding. It’s like exposing the most raw, primal parts of yourself and trusting your partner not just to accept them, but to embrace them. For Kev and me, it deepened our emotional bond in ways we hadn’t anticipated. We got to know each other’s fantasies, fears, and insecurities on a whole new level.

For the man, this dynamic might also serve his deepest kinks. For Kev, there’s something undeniably thrilling about the act of submission, of watching me with another man and knowing that I’m still his at the end of the day. It brings out his submissive side, which has only strengthened our bond.

But let’s not sugarcoat it—cuckolding isn’t all sunshine and rainbows. It can be risky. And today, I want to talk about what happens when that risk backfires.…