In today’s ever-evolving landscape of relationships, the term “modern husband” encapsulates a fresh perspective on partnership that goes beyond traditional norms. We're talking about a husband who's not just a provider or protector but is emotionally available, accommodating, and open to exploring ideas like polyamory, cuckolding, and pegging. This blog post will take you through the essence of what it means to be a modern husband, highlighting how these men prioritize their partners’ emotional and sexual needs, all while embracing the concept of compersion—the joy in seeing your partner happy with others.
Toxic masculinity refers to cultural norms that associate masculinity with aggression, emotional suppression, and dominance. It encourages men to be stoic, competitive, and detached from their emotions, often leading to unhealthy relationships and a misunderstanding of what it means to be a partner. For many years, this mindset dominated how men interacted with their partners, often creating barriers to emotional intimacy.
But here's the good news: the modern husband is breaking free from the constraints of toxic masculinity. In the wake of the #MeToo movement and growing awareness around gender dynamics, men are starting to redefine their roles in relationships. They are recognizing that vulnerability, empathy, and emotional intelligence are not signs of weakness but rather the building blocks of healthy partnerships.
Let’s paint a picture of our modern husband. Picture this: he’s a guy in his late 30s, juggling a fulfilling career while being actively involved in his family's life. He’s not afraid to express his feelings, whether that’s sharing his frustrations or his joys. He’s the kind of man who listens when his partner shares her thoughts, and he takes them to heart. His openness makes him a safe space for vulnerability, allowing both partners to explore their sexual desires and emotional needs without judgment.
This husband embodies the spirit of collaboration. He’s likely to discuss fantasies and desires openly, encouraging a dialogue about what works for both partners. Instead of shying away from the complexities of relationships, he dives in, ready to explore together. He understands that his partner’s satisfaction is intricately linked to his own happiness, making him more invested in her pleasure—both in and out of the bedroom.
At the core of being a modern husband lies the concept of compersion. It’s a beautiful feeling that flips jealousy on its head. Instead of feeling threatened by his partner’s connections with others, this husband feels joy and satisfaction seeing her fulfilled and happy. He celebrates her triumphs, whether they come from a personal achievement or a sexual encounter with another partner.…
Ave, the Modern Husband! May we all have enough wisdom not to stray from the path!
“As the modern husband sheds the chains of toxic masculinity, emotional availability becomes a new standard.” Throughout the blog, all masculinity is lumped together as “Toxic Masculinity”. Expect at the very end, when it says “In this journey of redefining masculinity, …” Certain people have trying to redefine masculinity for decades, most notable and recently by claiming that all masculinity is toxic masculinity. There are many of us that still believe that toxic masculinity can best be described, and defined, by the lack of actual masculinity.
All that said, am I the only one that finds it ironic that all of this conversation about how to “redefine” masculinity, toxic or otherwise, and extolling the virtues of a husband’s newly defined masculinity, is used in a purposeful way for a wife to justify how she can and should be able to fuck men that are better men than her husband? In other words, she wants to be intimate sexually with a guy that is masculine, even toxically, because they are better, bigger, stronger, smarter, etc. Odd
Do I think that Emma does this on purpose? I’d like to think not, but I don’t know of course.
I think I do it on purpose because I like to show and discuss the flexibility of masculinity. Not every man is some macho man and they shouldn’t be. Not every woman is the most delicate and feminine. I was always a bit of a tom boy and I wouldn’t have it any other way, its who I am. Not all men should be macho men and that’s not a guy that I see myself having an intimate partnership with. Not all shoes fit. I’m not wearing heels to go hiking and not wearing hiking boots when I go out. Combat boots maybe… hmm.
But I digress.
What I meant by “on purpose” was … by using toxic masculinity throughout and only the word masculinity at the very end, do you believe that all masculinity is toxic masculinity?
Shit … I hit Post Comment too soon. I also wanted to ask this. I don’t know what your definition of macho man is, but does it imply toxic masculinity? Doesn’t the words macho man also pretty well describe the type of man that a would-be cuckoldress wants to fuck instead of her husband? Doesn’t it seem ironic that the gist of the blog is about changing the existing definition of masculine for the husband while preserving the existing definition of masculine (toxic even) when the wife is on the prowl for someone different to fuck?
Btw, I think tom boys are sexy! Always have.
This is highly oversimplified but my definition of masculine traits include things like strength, leadership, and assertiveness, these are all things that I find very attractive and they are not toxic on their own. Those traits become toxic when they encourage devaluation of others (including women) and encourage suppression of emotions or dominance over others. Some traits that are common to both femininity and masculinity are empathy, emotional intelligence and responsibility.
You can be masculine without being toxic and you can be toxic without being masculine.
The gist of the blog is to encourage and develop the traits that are common between female and male and realize that these traits are the common ground that a relationship is based upon. These things are also not inherently masculine, and that’s ok. Remember, it isn’t feminizing your man.
It is about evolving as a couple and experiencing an incredibly strong emotional connection together and using sex as a conduit to experience that world together.