Locktober is just around the corner. Are you are going to spend another October wondering what it would be like, or are you going to give it a try? Kev and I are taking a look at Chaster this year. The site was recommended by a reader, we have no affiliation or incentive to refer it but we would love for you to join us as we try it out.
As a woman, male chastity changes your dynamic to “What happens when I get to decide our sexual dynamic?” That little shift in control can be delicious and suddenly an otherwise predictable sexual dynamic turns to something electric and he gets to enjoy letting go. It is amazing how a tiny little lock can bring intimacy and a little chivalry back into your everyday relationship. I’m not the performative kind where he pulls out a chair and expects applause but the way he checks in with me, notices what I want, and finds pleasure in making me feel adored. I want him to feel adored too. The key can be a playful reminder to bring courtship and chivalry back into your relationship.
You’ve heard his objections before, “A month is too long.” “I can’t wear it at work.” “It is uncomfortable to wear when I work out.” Fair enough, babe, but this Locktober we are going to test those excuses out and see just how true the are. If we need to adapt, then do it. Maybe you start with a shorter lock time and plan around work and workouts, or make October about me telling you to lock it up whenever I want and unlocking it before bed. You’re not asking him to ignore his discomfort but asking him to be curious with you. A month gives both of you plenty of time to discover what feels good, change what doesn’t, and learn about each other along the way.
If you try it and decide that it isn’t your thing, then you unlock him at any time and you still get to say you tried it and had an experience together. Maybe he finds that he actually likes surrendering control more than he expected. Maybe you discover that you enjoy taking charge in a way that you never knew. Maybe it does absolutely nothing but create some exciting conversation. All of those things are great reasons to give it a try, not to prove anything, but to find out a little more about each other, and your sexual needs and desires.
This October will probably happen like every other. Work, laundry, bills but this year you have the opportunity to interrupt the routine and turn up your flirting and denial skills with male chastity. I do not need Kev to prove his devotion by being miserable, I want him to enjoy giving me control of his little guy and I want to enjoy the thrill of having that control.
Chaster is a chastity tracking app and they are hosting a Locktober community event from October 1 through November 1. Their website has a tracker which allows you to track and share your lock status. Maybe you have been quietly curious about trying male chastity for years. Maybe your partner mentioned it once and you both laughed, then never brought it up again. Maybe you already enjoy a female led dynamic and want to take it to the next level by adding chastity. Whatever the reason, why not join us for Locktober this year?
So let’s go, remember to post your Chaster link in the comments below or join our shared lock and let me be your keyholder. Whatever you decide to do, I hope you have fun with it. Together!
