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I had sexually submissive fantasies since before puberty.  I did not know about an entire relationship based on loving female authority until 6 years ago, found on the internet of course. 5 years ago at age 64 I came out to my wife and proposed we change. She accepted and though not naturally dominant she has evolved as have I. We are both retired after a traditional, for the times, breadwinner/housewife marriage.  We are incorporating the main principles described here except no cage, instead honor based orgasm control by her. I would like to experience what Emma has described in using the back door to gain more intimacy, but that doesn’t work for my wife. However our marriage has never been better since I learned about the discordance I was experiencing in living the “norm” but going against my true nature. I follow several blogs, the best being written by women, to learn and share with her. Evolving......  is a wonderful intelligent forum. Thanks Emma for your efforts in sharing your experience to mentor others and provide a place for discussion. 

Posted : 24/10/2019 5:50 am
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Welcome to the forum Bluesboy. Like you, my wife is not "naturally dominant" and we both have traditional backgrounds but we are evolving as you described. I am sure you have learned a few things in the last 5 years that others will find helpful.



Posted : 29/10/2019 8:46 am
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Thanks Bluesboy and welcome to the site!

Although I am no expert, I like to document my experience as I learn what makes both Kevin and I tick. When Kevin is retaining and horny, he does have trouble thinking without perving out. The longer he retains, the more he is willing to agree to sexually. I think I alluded to that in the pushing his boundaries blog. I think that is probably a normal guy trait, if guys get hornier then they need to continually change and adapt their standards until they get their release. Yet another example of the sex drive is manipulating the conscious mind.

I do really enjoy reading my old blogs to see how my opinions have continually evolved over time. The name of the site is evolvingyourman but it would be disingenuous to say that I haven't been evolving as well.

I do think experiencing pegging will be a huge milestone for your relationship. Hopefully the two of you eventually decide to give it a try. I can't say enough good things about Ruby Ryder's podcast, especially #115 which I have linked directly here. If you can't get her to read articles on this site, give her podcast a listen. 

Thanks again for reading and contributing.

Posted : 01/11/2019 5:13 pm