Chastity & Orgasm Denial

Male Chastity: Selecting the Correct Size For Your Cock Cage

The perfect cage would perfectly encapsulate the penis at its most flaccid state without creating discomfort as the penis swells to its erect state. The cage is not a torture device, it is simply to prevent arousal and access to the organ. The cage should also not inhibit cleanliness or urination since those are essential to normal hygiene. Measuring yourself for your first cock cage can be scary especially when cages are expensive. The consequences for an improperly fitted cage are high from a discomfort and a replacement cost standpoint. Nobody wants a used cock cage so they are generally worthless if you purchase an ill fitted cage.

Cages come in all shapes and sizes just like penises so measurement is challenging. Cages typically come with a ring and a tube which connect together to encapsulate the penis. The ring goes behind the testicles and up against the body while the tube covers and encloses the penis. Button that all together with some sort of locking mechanism and you have nearly every modern cock cage.

Measuring the Ring

To measure the ring, take a piece of string and wrap it around your balls and hold it firmly to the top of your penis. It should be tight but not uncomfortably so, remove the string and measure it. Write that number down both in metric and imperial since cages can be sized both ways.

Measuring the Tube/Cage

To measure the tube, measure your flaccid penis after coming out of a warm shower. This typically is going to be slightly larger than your smallest state. You want to measure from the base of the penis where it meets the body to the tip. Again make sure that you write down your measurement in both metric and imperial so you can shop for cages in both sizes.

Buying Your First Cage

Go cheap! Purchase an inexpensive cage with good reviews. Safety is first and foremost so don’t buy anything with reviews that say anything about unfinished or sharp edges. When you purchase a cage, find one that includes multiple base rings if possible. This will allow you to try different sizes and see how they feel.

Cages are a specialty item and they typically ship from China so shipping is going to take from 30 to 60 days. If you unless you are lucky enough to find one at your local sex shop, you might pay more but can take it for a test drive sooner.

Try Your Cage On

Before you do anything, test the lock. Make sure that it opens and closes easily. Once you are comfortable that the lock works properly, try the ring on. You will place your testicles inside the base ring one at a time and lastly, you will slide the penis through the ring. Place the tube over your penis and move it around a bit. If you can’t fit your penis into the tube easily, use a bit of lotion to lubricate yourself. Now grit your teeth and close the lock.

Wear the cage for a few minutes and see what you think. Walk around, stretch, jump up and down and perhaps a jumping jack or two. How does it feel? Do you feel like it is cutting circulation off? Do you feel like it is too loose with too much movement? Do you feel any sharp edges or anything that could cause discomfort? The next part is the fun part. Get a boner.

If you have a partner who is helping you fit yourself, ask him or her to help inspire you to become erect. Blowing on your cage or fingernails on your testicles should get things moving. Now do the same exercises as above. Do you feel any discomfort? Look at your balls, are they colored normally or are are they turning purple or blue? If you see discoloration, the ring may be cutting off circulation. You might need a bigger ring. If either of your balls feels like it might slip out from the base ring, you might need a smaller ring.

Can you pull your penis out the top of the cage from below the base ring? If so, this is a sign that you need a larger cage. If you are able to get your penis out, your balls will remain trapped and it will be a very painful situation. Comfort is one of the best reasons to get a properly fitting cage. Cages won’t ever feel like you aren’t wearing anything but they also are not meant to be torturously painful.

If everything seems to be copasetic, wear your new cage for an hour or two. You might even leave the house to run some errands. Bring your key with you. In fact, I would recommend wearing your cage recreationally for the first week and bringing your key with you whenever you do.

Sleeping in Your Cage

Next try sleeping in your cage, make sure that you urinate before bed. You will most likely wake at some point with a painful erection. Get out of bed, check for discoloration of your balls and if everything is in order, use the restroom and your erection should go away. Did you know that taking a wee will make your morning wood go away? Like magic, it will go back to the less endowed version of itself.

Your Penis Will Adapt

Your penis and balls will change as you become accustomed to wearing the cage. Your balls will adapt to the constant tugging and you may wish to try another one of your rings after a couple days. As you grow accustomed to the feeling of wearing a cage you may even wish to order another. Perhaps this time you will want to try a larger, smaller, pinker, metal-er, silicone-er or maybe you decide that this chastity thing isn’t for you.

Hygiene

Frequent cleaning of your cage is essential. Metal cages with lots of access are easier to clean up. The plastic or covered versions can get an odor before long. Urination is usually the biggest cause of the odor. The key is sitting to urinate and making certain that your urethra has an unobstructed view prior to starting things flowing. If you have a removable showerhead, you can use that to help use water pressure to clean things out. Some cages are very difficult to clean and will need to be removed every few days.

Visual Cage Fitting Guide

I keep seeing pictures of penises that are poorly fitted for cages so I’ve put together a few photos of cages and penises that I’ve collected from sites and forums. If this is your bits and pieces and you would like me to remove it from the site, just let me know and I’d be happy to. Warning, naughty pictures below.

#1 This cage is pretty clearly too large. The gap between the penis and the end of the cage appears to be nearly a half inch. The base ring looks good but he needs a shorter cage.
#2 This cage appears to be a nice fit for the member inside it. I would argue that a smaller size might help but the next size down might be too small.
#3 This cage looks like it could be too small but the wearer might like a more snug fit. This isn’t bad assuming it doesn’t cause any discomfort. The head fits nicely in the last segment of the cage and the hole of the urethra presumably lines up nicely with the gap at the end of the cage.
#4 Far too big of a cage. Unless he is a massive grower, he needs a smaller size.
#5 Clearly this cage is much too large from a length and girth standpoint. A shorter cage will allow it to fill out horizontally as well.
#6 This cage is also too large. The base ring is holding everything together and seems to be ok however the tube needs to be much shorter. A cage with this much space will make urination difficult since the hole of the urethra won’t line up with the air vents of the cage.
#7 This seems like a perfect fit to me. Not too big and not too small. He has a bit of room to expand but not too much. This looks like the best fit so far.
#8 You’re kidding me, right? He can just pull that little guy out of the top of the cage. It’s like he didn’t even try to find a cage that fits.
#9 The steel wires of this cage are a unique look but it appears to make the cage too wide for him. If the sides aren’t constantly reminding him that he is locked, it isn’t a good fit in my opinion. It looks pretty neat though.
#10 This cage seems to be about the right length but too wide. It may be a good fit however a shorter cage will allow him to fill out the cage a bit more. I would recommend a shorter cage however the base ring looks correct.
#11 Much too short. He has far too much room to grow. You may want your first cage to be loose fitting like this but for any long term wear, you will want something more snug.
#12 This is the newest style on the block from a company called Kink3D and the fit looks incredible. In fact, the fit looks so nice that it inspired this blog post. I can’t speak from first hand experience but I really like the look and took it upon myself to order one for Kevin. Her necklace is pretty great too!

Have you tried any of these cages? Do you want to share thoughts or opinions about my fitment comments above? I numbered each of the photos to make it easier to refer to them in your comments.

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bdcharlesnaughtymind

I have a Kink3d N and I love it. I originally started with a cherry keeper and had a good experience with it as well. However, the night time aches happened pretty much every night. It was nothing that a quick get up and use the restroom wouldn’t take care of but still annoying. I don’t have that problem with the Cobra. I am using the second to smallest ring and will eventually try to move to the smallest. I wear it 24/7 no problem and highly recommend it.
Charlie

dharmaproject

I’ll be honest, at first I was not too interested in this article but committed to reading it out of my devotion to this site. Then I got to the pictures showing examples of correct and incorrect fit. The pictures and descriptions are great and really helpful. Thank you.

Russ195

I love your statement, “The cage is not a torture device, it is simply to prevent arousal and access to the organ.”

Getting something to fit right is a challenge it seems. The penis part is the easiest, I want the tip of the pee hole to be right at the end. Slightly small will work better than slightly large for the penis part.

The ring it tricky, it has to be tight enough to not come off, but lose enough to not cause circulation problems. Also, spacing between the ring and penis part has to be right. I have found if the spacing is fairly close, it makes the ring more difficult to pull off even if the ring is a little big.

When I am locked, I do not want to be able to pull it off without unlocking. Locked males will try when left alone. I have one now that fits pretty good. I could pull it off if I really tried, but it would be painful and no way I could get it back on.

KinkyPleasures

There are rings that are “ergonomic” and fit very well. It’s not oval but will press against the body comfortably when needed like when wearing tighter clothing.

If the ball pulls through the ring while wearing it, it doesn’t fit right. I have a shorter cage, about an inch long and found the right ring to feel secure and comfortable. I cannot pull a ball between the tube and ring.

servant

What do you think of the very short cages? The mini cages?
there are testimonials from men who say they prefer this feeling of being compressed. But I wonder about the medical aspect and hygiene.

KinkyPleasures

Whatever is comfortable and it needs to match your size. I am a grower, meaning flaccid, I am small. This helps because once in the cage, I can feel comfortable and when aroused in the cage, I’m not in pain. Everyone is different.
I do find that the smaller cages are much more comfortable and better for long term wear.

subhubphx

Thank you Emma. Excellent and detailed, easy to understand information, as always.

This wonderful article came exactly 5 days after I hit “send” on the order for my new Mature Metal Jail Bird. I got a nice full, hot cup of coffee and sat down to read your article, hoping that I ordered mine right. After reading it, and absorbing your information, I feel pretty good that I did.

Remember, I’m the guy that always mention that chastity, in and of itself, meant a cage because Ms. K. preferred I not wear except when I was in the doghouse. Seems that will changed upon the arrival of my new cage.

KinkyPleasures

For the price, I love ternence. They are cheep and well made. They have a lot of pre configurations to choose from. I found my favorite from them. TERNENCE Ergonomic Design Chastity Device Male Virginity Lock Chastity Belt Adult Game Sex Toy S145 (1.77 inch / 45mm) https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B07GLD2BWM/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_SSTDND7MK4VTVAPKFQAX?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1

mstara

We can add testament to how good the MM cages are. We were very careful with the measurements but thankfully we seem to have got it right.
Total game changer for us in terms of long term wear, so be careful what you’ve wished for!

subhubphx

Thank you . Ms. K. said last night as we were getting into bed, unsolicited, how she really is excited (can’t wait) for the cage to arrive. It made my eyes get big and brought a nervous smile to my face.

Jay

Just wanted to thank you for the information regarding the fit of a chastity device. Words can be very descriptive and informative, however the pictures truly give meaning to your instructions. Very much appreciate this, as well as all of your articles. I do look forward to each and every one.
Thank you again.

goldilocks

Emma,

I remember that you were against naughty images and videos on this blog as you wanted it to be kept open to couples who were exploring chastity safely.

Is that changed now?

Dexterous

Not to question but he says that the cage we bought is too small and it is sized like you describe. Slightly larger than when he stepped from the shower. During the day is fine but during the night it is uncomfortable and wakes him up. The fit looks like number seven so we should be ok except I don’t hear the end about his discomfort.

Socal63

Sounds like to me he has to get used to it. At night he maybe trying to get an erection After he gets used to wearing it at night it will get to be more comfortable. A little discomfort is good

bamberbabe111

Hi Emma,

A month or so ago I was going to get my boyfriend a chastity cage. We’ve gotten one! It’s a metal one, just from eBay. Metal is the best kind for us I think. Definitely my preference, as well as being better for hygienic reasons. Anyway, it seems to fit decently, little discomfort for him aside from the corners of the lock which he said he’ll just file down to be rounded and smooth.

However, when he gets revved up, like just today, the cage does not seem to be doing its job of preventing his erection, and instead just imprisons it and he swelled up much too tightly– his dick started turning purple and feeling cold. Of course, we IMMEDIATELY took it off!! I’m worried that although we looked at this article and figured his cage seems to fit, we must have gone wrong somewhere (possibly very wrong?) because it’s not preventing erections, just turning the cage into a tournequet when he does get turned on.

We’re invested in this as part of our new FLR (especially since he’s been wearing this for only two days and the changes have already been underway at lightning speed!!), and I’m not willing to go back to not having him locked up. However, I also don’t know where we went wrong and am worried about spending hundreds of dollars on cages until we find one that fits correctly.

Help!!

Thanks, Amber

sah80

I would suggest to buy some more different cheap cages.
After trying them he and you should get a better idea of what will work and what not.
Oval or round base ring? padlock or internal lock? cage itself with rings or with bars in the length of the cage? peehole opening small or larger?

Everyone has his own preferences, but to know them you have to figure it out by trying.

Ive had a number of cages. by one the design of the cage was good, but not the lock, by the other was the basering good but other parts not. unfortunatly all those cages, locks and base rings are not just a mix and match thing.
In the end I had my cage made by a etsy compagny (dont know if we may call names). They were fast and measurements were precise.
I ended with a custom 42mm round basering, and a comfortable cagedesign (bars in the length, wich prevents skin rubbing) with a custom lenght and inner diameter, and a smaller peehole to avoid skin peeping out at the end when aroused.
I could never did this without spending the money on the cheaper cages.
The last one fits great, normally I forget I wear it, and at a cost of about 180 dollar ( without all the trial cages…)
I also bought a 2nd slightly different size basering at the same time, so i can change if needed.

I hope this helps a bit!

bamberbabe111

Hey, sah80!

Thank you so much for your input- it’s nice to hear what has worked for other people!! I’m so excited to be part of this community (even just if near the sidelines for now) and to learn so much. Emma’s blog has been a wealth of information, and I’ve honestly learned SO much more as well from the people who comment on these posts, you included! 🙂

I think my bf’s base ring is a good size, but I believe he told me he’s going to try going down to the smallest ring when he feels comfortable. I noticed his current one slips down just the tiniest bit when he gets hard.

If I may ask, what has your experience been with getting hard in your cages? Have you had any trouble as I described in my original comment about getting too hard, swelling up, and turning purple/cold? I know cages are supposed to prevent erections, not just choke them (and cause panicked removal). Also, he’s got some extra padding on his pubic bone, so I’m also wondering if that has been making fitting his cage more difficult because there’s more flesh there? Or because some of his dick is hiding amidst it, so maybe his base ring is too low? Any more of your input is greatly appreciated 🙂 Thanks so much!!

sah80

I have no experience in getting cold and purple. Neither with the padding on the pubic bone. I will leave it to others with experience to give you advice on that one.
Getting hard in the cage is uncomfortable, not painfull. With a wider (45mm in my case) basering the erection pulls the basering with the balls down. that can be painfull. with my 42.5 mm basering there is little movement. snug enough.
But when trying differtent models, a 40mm basering was too tight.
After half an hour I had a strainge pain low in my stomach, and the feeling of throwing up.
Perhaps it is safe to look for a cage with a hinged basering until meassurements are right? the one you are using now isn’t safe I think.

KinkyPleasures

Bamberbabe, I had this issue with a ring size that was too small. It’s the same or similar effect when using a cock ring to make yourself harder and longer lasting even after orgasm. The ring base will be loose at times and snug at others be pending on the mood of you make it fit snug when at your most flaccid state, then it will be uncomfortable when he’s at his common state. I like to experience cheaply with these from Amazon and have been buying them until this last one when I found the right size and length.
TERNENCE Ergonomic Design Chastity Device Male Virginity Lock Chastity Belt Adult Game Sex Toy S145 (1.77 inch / 45mm) https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B07GLD2BWM/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_SSTDND7MK4VTVAPKFQAX?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1

Undrawing

My wife is an avid reader of the site but she never registered. This morning she told me that she read this blog and thinks that we need to get a smaller cage because I’ve got too much extra room in mine. My jaw dropped and I simultaneously felt turned on and humiliated. Mine looks like #1 so I don’t disagree with her but hearing that come out of her mouth was mind blowing.