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Penis Size: I Like Them Small

To me, a large penis fosters a purely physical connection while a small penis supports a level of closeness and intimacy. A large penis gives me anxiety and a gasp at what the heck I am even going to do with it. The small penis gives me a sense of admiration and adoration.

For the last year, I’ve been open about having two men in my life. One is larger and the other is somewhat smaller although they really are fairly similar in size and shape. One curves upwards more and the other has a slightly larger head. Can I tell them apart in the dark? Most of the time, yes. Does it really matter? Most of the time, no.

Despite being sized differently, both guys offer different styles of lovemaking. Kevin is more sensual and erotic with lots of foreplay, closeness, eye contact and a deep level of intimacy. Andrew on the other hand is a more physical connection with a shallower level of intimacy. A smaller penis is infinitely more suited to a gentle and intimate style of lovemaking. A larger penis is better suited for a more aggressive style of – lets call it what it is – fucking.

Having sex with a larger penis can leave you with discomfort or soreness that you may not feel with a more gentle guy. A smaller guy can feel like less of a penetrating object, he can be inside you and feel more complete with him inside. This can lead to long nights of lovemaking where he slides in and out with little regard for the logistics of the matter. Smaller penises feel good almost immediately where larger ones take some warming up before my body starts feeling pleasure. The hardware isn’t necessarily incompatible but it doesn’t work without a little bit of fiddling around.

Smaller guys work harder to make sure that you are satisfied, maybe he feels like he has something to prove. Giving head is easier and deepthroating is never a concern. Small penises are cute and I know Kev hates when I use that word for him but I’d much prefer something adorable than something intimidating. I want to cuddle up with it and not feel threatened or intimidated by him. Last but not least, anal sex is sooooo much easier with a small guy than a big fella.

If you’ve been on this site longer then five seconds, you know that I like my boy parts under lock and key. Smaller ones look better locked up, they are more comfortable for the wearer and less noticeable under clothing. That isn’t to say that you can’t lock a bigger one up but it might take some custom cage fitting to get one that is just right.

For guys who enjoy teasing (most guys) it is much more fun to tease about a small thing than a bigger one. A bigger one seems like a compliment where the small guy takes it as gentle teasing. Be careful before pushing things too far but lighthearted teasing can be fun if you both enjoy it and his reactions are priceless (in an attractively vulnerable way). Don’t cross any lines but gentle humiliation can be a fun relationship dynamic especially if he knows that he is smaller than a good subset of the male population. I like to tease him about it being small when he is soft but when he is hard, I am quick to compliment.

When I say smaller, exactly what I am calling a dinky winky and what am I calling a long dong? In my mind, a small one is 3-5 inches hard and a big one is bigger than that. Something smaller than that range isn’t what I am talking about here. Even with a smaller guy, there are lots of positions where you can still feel all of the action.

So what about some love for the big guys? Don’t get me wrong, I still love a big penis. A man with a beautiful penis regardless of size is gorgeous. A well endowed man with defined muscles yet not too muscular is an absolutely incredible turn on. I don’t know why our culture doesn’t appreciate the male form in the same way that it worships the female form. Our society associates a large penis with masculinity with strength and vitality and a smaller penis with weakness and impotence. My personal view is that society’s view is wrong and men with small to average sized penises are the ideal loving partners while the larger guys are great hookup material.

So let’s talk about the bigger guys. A good fucking is wonderful but it takes preparation; both mental and physical to get into a headspace where you can handle something larger. I enjoy it but there is always a level of apprehensiveness about an unexpected pain or god forbid a bruised cervix. Even a perfect encounter leaves you with the knowledge that you will be feeling quite sore the next day. As with the small/normal sized guys, there are positions that will help as well. But what about the guy attached to the penis? Guys with smaller penises aren’t as arrogant and are usually capable of sharing genuine feelings.

I realize that this entire blog has been a huge generalization. Some of the nicest guys I know have come in all different shapes and sizes so one size (pun intended) certainly doesn’t fit all but for the most part, this rings true for me and the experiences that I’ve had.

That’s just my two cents what about you?

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gallifreystyle

Very interesting. It’s been many years since I measured mine (when I was an obsessed teenager) but I am thinking I am just on the bigger side according to your criteria. However, I find the idea of gentle teasing about being small really exciting. Being very much a grower, I am very small when soft, so maybe I have the best of both worlds! I think the important thing is to remember that there is not one perfect penis – it’s a case of different strokes for different folks (pun intended) and if penis size is causing an issue that there are different positions and techniques that can help.

gallifreystyle

I have never actually tried a cage but that makes sense. Maybe I will find out one day, though it seems pretty unlikely at this stage. And you’re right, I remember seeing a video once about a cuckold couple where the guy was all excited about his wife having sex with a “real man” who was much bigger and I was thinking “but yours is just as big as his, if anything slightly bigger”! But all involved seemed happy so that was fine.

subhubphx

@Emma “I would imagine that being a grower it is difficult to find a cage that fits both when you are soft and when you are straining to be hard.”

Being a grower myself, it’s not really possible to find a cage that fits properly when flaccid and still be entirely comfortable when aroused. That said, like you stated in your blog about cage sizes, it is vital that the cage fit properly when soft. In other words, filling the cage completely. The ramifications of being confined in a properly fitted cage when getting aroused is part of the function of the cage … so there’s that.

HappyCuckold

OMG, Emma, you have such sexy attitudes! By your standard, I am on the border between big and small, but I get really turned on when my wife teases me that I have a small penis compared other guys she has had sex with. I have always felt a little insecure about the size of my penis, so I feel extremely vulnerable when my wife teases me about it, but feeling vulnerable is sexy to me. Being teased about one’s sexual insecurity, but feeling loved and valued at the same time, brings about an incredible feeling of closeness.

Husband62

Such great insight again Emma. I find it very humbling being a grower in my flaccid state. It is hard to be confident walking around the house naked while feeling and perceiving yourself as small. Fully hard I am close to 7 inches and my confidence soars in that state. It is truly two different worlds and states of mind for me.

I believe growers and certainly smaller penis gents make much better long term partners. Long term relationships take compromise and sacrifice. I think I would probably be a somewhat arrogant gent if I had a 5-6 inch shower dangling between my legs all the time. I know I would probably want to show it off to every woman I could. Monogamy, if that is the goal, would be nearly impossible.

Maybe that is the definition of “big dick energy” that everyone seems to talk about. I understand the attraction in the short term but can see the challenges in a long term relationship. Fascinating stuff.

littlebob

I like your view on penis size. When I was growing up, there was a compition with the other boys about who had the largest penis. When I was older, I was ashamed of my penis size and found dating hard because my penis does not get very hard or large. Since I have found out about male chastity, I have found living with a small penis easier and it has given me comfort.