If you’ve been around this site more than a few minutes, you know that my fiance and I are huge pegging fans. Huge fans. I mean we peg more than PIV huge. I like the power, the intimacy, the closeness the everything. Anyway. Not going to get into that today, I’ve written enough about it here and here. What about the strap-on blowjob? What would I get from having him suck on my strap-on? The answer is everything and also nothing!
Leave it to me to create more questions than answers in an intro paragraph. I’ve been trying to embrace the difficult-to-explain in the last few blogs because I like to make my writing prompts difficult. Don’t judge me. Ok so strap-on sucking. When a man kneels before you, takes your waiting strap-on into his mouth and performs fellatio on it. As the sucker, he gets no pleasure. As the suckee, I get no pleasure. Why would anyone ever want to suck on a rubber dick and why the heck would this even be a thing?
Rubber dick or not, I do enjoy it. Even without a bullet vibrator placed inside my strap-on harness, I feel something. I feel intimacy, I feel like the strap-on is an extension of myself. The harness alone makes me feel sexy and makes me feel really hot. Part of it is the power dynamic but that’s not all. I really feel like I get pleasure from watching him kneel in front of me and take me into his mouth. I enjoy holding the back of his head and instructing him on how I want it. I do feel something. Despite the cock not being part of my limbic system, I feel him slightly gag on it as it reaches the back of his throat. Perhaps it is something like when a person loses a leg and they feel that phantom pain where their limb used to be. I feel pleasure where my cock never was.
Blowjobs are extremely sexy!
Part of it is how it looks. Looking down at him while he kneels before you, you place the tip in his mouth and he works it up and down until you are face fucking him. Or how about the more sensual blowjob where you lie beside each other and he goes down below the covers and caresses your thighs as he kisses the shaft, the head and the outline of the harness on your body. Yes. I am one with the strap-on and it is one with me.
He looks so cute as he focuses intently on the task ahead of him. Looking up at me as I make eye contact with him and hold the back of his head firmly. The power dynamic. Yum.
Does it make him gay?
By definition, he is having sex with a woman so the act is not gay. I will say that bi guys give great blowjobs but even the straightest of straight guys can learn to suck like pros. Part of the fun is teaching him what I like and I enjoy watching him navigate the different sizes and shapes of phalluses from our toybox. From the little one that barely reaches his tonsils to the bigger one where he can barely navigate the head.
Many straight guys are fascinated with cock. They don’t necessarily feel attraction to boys they are attracted to but you might be surprised at the number of straight men who would seriously consider sex with a beautiful FTM transgender female. Cocks are fascinating so I empathize with this. Watching them shrink, grow and erupt their wonderful gooey magic. I think cocks are not inherently masculine or feminine, they are just cocks, and separating genitals from their gender identity is woke as fuck.
Prelude to Pegging
Another thing is the mind fuck that he knows this will inevitably be in his bum in short order. Starting the session with a request to kiss it before I fuck you. Or even a simple why don’t you kiss it first. It always puts a big smile on both of our faces. In addition to making me feel closer to my partner, it also makes me feel closer to the toy and you could say that it helps psych me up for the big game.
Gender Play
I don’t personally like feminization, nothing wrong with it I just don’t find fem boys attractive. Not my jam. I do think a man confident enough to play without hang-ups about gender roles is extremely attractive. Giving blowjobs is not inherently feminine. I know plenty of gay male couples where the top blows the bottom. Not that the bottom has to be fem, he doesn’t. Blowjobs feel good and that’s it. As a female, I do enjoy giving blowjobs but I must say that I get more pleasure from receiving them. Watching a beautiful straight boy’s head gently move up and down is fucking magical. Instructing him and guiding him on the path of the perfect blowjob takes you further into domland and him deeper into subspace. Fun-fun-fun!
Enthusiasm
Anything that we can both get into sexually is fun. If one of us does it for the other, that is fun too but this is one of those things where we are both really vibing with the act. As with nearly everything sex related, enthusiasm is key. If he is enthusiastic partner, I am down to do nearly anything and try nearly anything. I’ve been with guys who are gorgeous but they lack enthusiasm in bed and guess what? Not hot, guys!
How to Receive
Ok so we’ve established that strap-on blowjobs are just dandy but it can be weird to receive one. It is important that you stay physically and emotionally present with him as he sucks on it. A hand placed somewhere on his body will do wonders to keep him relaxed. Moaning may seem stupid but it isn’t. Moan when you see something arousing and guess what, you will feel aroused. There is a chicken and egg element of all pleasure. If you want to feel open to pleasure, moan and you will open your body to receive pleasure. This extends to rubber dicks too, it really does.
A well-placed bullet style vibrator inside your harness feels great too but it can tickle his nose a little bit. We’ve tried it a few times but I personally like to receive without stimulation.
Ask him lots of questions, preferably things that can be answered with a grunt or head nod. Give lots of verbal affirmations that will really show how much you are enjoying his attention. If something is hot, tell him how hot it is. If you enjoy the connection you feel when he looks up at you, tell him! Remember that straight boys probably haven’t sucked too many cocks so give him lots of instructions on what you want to see. Slower, faster, deeper, focus on the tip. You can even work him up to taming his gag reflex.
Love is truly intense when a couple is comfortable and trusting enough with each other to explore a fantasy! One oft overlooked bonus is that you can now take ownership of the phrase “Suck My Dick!“.
Let me ask the men, when you see a beautiful woman wielding a strap-on, does part of you want to kneel and take it into your mouth?
The short answer would be “Yes” I would like to suck on it, but only if a lady ordered me to do so. I think this is a good way to confirm and support a woman’s dominant place in the relationship. Placing your hand(s) on the back of his head and gently pushing his face forward while he’s sucking, as well as some verbal cues such as “suck on it dear, it’s what you deserve” “Face it sweetie, you were born to be pegged by a woman” will remind him of his proper place. JMHO – Once a man get’s used to being locked in a chastity cage, one other first things his lady should explore with him should be pegging, as well as strap on blow jobs. 🙂
“The short answer would be “Yes” I would like to suck on it, but only if a lady ordered me to do so.”
Same here. The act itself has zero appeal by itself. Being told to do it like Emma described, because she got enjoyment out of it, would have me enthusiastically on my knees like a cock-hungry slut! It’s the same with other things like cum eating and spanking. Do I ask to be spanked or even like getting spanked? No. But I love that she does it and after the paddling is done, each of us cleansed and a correction has been made … and i love every minute of that part. Do I eat my own cum or want to? No. Would I if Ms. K. all of a sudden decided that is what would make her happy? In a nano second!
“Let me ask the men, when you see a beautiful woman wielding a strap-on, does part of you want to kneel and take it into your mouth?”
It’s not a scenario I’m ever likely to experience but the short answer is nope, I wouldn’t be interested in blowing a strap-on dildo. I really can’t see what the attraction is.
Yes, have done before. It is part of the role swap. Not as tasty as the real thing, but it is her thing. A prelude to more tugging and pulling on that harness to come. Part of a helpful ritual to get both parties into their roles.
I don’t see pegging as swapping roles.
I find that odd.
For me pegging, and yes I’ve sucked. Strapon, it’s about maximising pleasure. Sucking the strapon is a visual pleasure for her.
When me and the Mrs have any sex, neither is in charge, we’re making love together.
I really find the concept of roles odd and actually a bit disturbing.
A relationship must be 2 ways to work, in most cases anyway.
This very strange”me boss, you my underling” is a bit imperial and harps back to the 12th century for me.
“Let me ask the men, when you see a beautiful woman wielding a strap-on, does part of you want to kneel and take it into your mouth?”
Maybe, especially if that beautiful woman was Ms. K. That said, from the pictures, the first one with the purple hair and the redhead right below … Rawr!!!! One because of the beautiful alabaster skin, and the other because it looks familiar enough, and neither of them have ridiculously big rubber cocks.
For me, it is an additional act of submission. She OWNS me and i am to serve Her how She pleases. i am to be on my knees, naked, in chastity and collar (and maybe cuffs). If She wants me to choke, i choke. As Her object, i submit to everything She wishes to do to me.
I actually like kneeling and sucking my gf’s strap-on, even when she hasn’t asked for it. Is definitely not the same thing as sucking a guys dick, and it feels artificial – plus she won’t feel a thing. But well, I like getting on my knees and giving blowjobs, ans she has never complained, so why not?
Every man with size inadequacies should get pegged simply to learn a lesson. After it is all done with, the pegger can ask him if he would prefer an enormous strap-on next time. If he says no way, it would hurt to much, the pegger could then ask, “Then why would I prefer a man with an enormous penis?” A very zen moment.
Let me tell you a real-life story.
Many years ago, I was fantasizing about classic Dominatrix look, which is all black leather and with a black strap-on dildo. The dildo does not look like a real cock, but rather like an alien style dildo with no balls. I talked to my wife about the fantasy, and she agree to try pegging. We went to a sexshop, and right away I found the exact black dildo I had in my mind. She had something completely different in her mind, and started looking at realistic skin-like cock with balls. I was not sure about this, but I figured that I won’t be seeing what goes in my butt anyway.
When we started our sex play, the first thing she asked me was to give a blowjob to the strap-on. I was in shock but I did it as she forced me. That was not part of the plan, and the humiliation was extreme for a straight man sucking a realistic cock for the first time. The humiliation emotion mixed with pleasures as she started to rub my cock was incredibly arousing. That became one of my most memorable sex experience, and we still practice cock sucking as a power play which does not always prelude to pegging.
A straight man cannot do cock sucking by himself, that would be admitting to himself that he is gay. The story is completely different and safe, if he is forced by a woman.
That’s a very exciting story! I’m happy to hear you enjoyed it.
As a bi guy I find very strange how heterosexual men get uncomfortable around penises. I feel as if any kind of sex with a woman is a heterosexual sex – be it with a strap on or a transgender woman.
I also have a feeling (and many, if not most, will disagree) that being LGBTQ+ is a form of identity (as in “who you are”, and now “what do you do”), meaning that just having sex with same sex people is not enough. A simple one-nighter can’t really determine who you are. Not even a bunch of one-nighters. Only you can do that.
It’s all about the moment you start seeing yourself living the rest of your life married to another guy and you’re happy with. Then you start understanding yourself and who you are, in a different manner, and a LGBTQ identity settles in.
Sorry for the cheesy comment lol
Wow! Getting her perspective is amazing.
Great blog post with some creative ideas. My wife and I have been pegging for about 15 years. She likes it enough because I love to be pegged. To use Dan Savage’s term she is GGG and I love that about her to put up with my kinks. She says no when she wants and that is great too. I know where she stands. We have not incorporated D/S into our relationship so our pegging is more sensual – she loves that I have these amazing orgasms. A few months ago, I was helping her get into the harness and dildo and she stood up. I found myself kneeling in front of her and there it was – her lady cock was right in front of my face. I just took it into my mouth without thinking and sucked on it and played with it for what seemed like a long time. She seemed kind of stunned – taking in the role reversal and all but did not say word. I said that it was interesting to do and found it sexy to think about. She pegged me and we had a great time. Would I do it again? Sure if the moment was right. If she asked me to do it – I would definitely do it again.