We can only control a few aspects of our sexual performance and the sheer futility of our sexual condition is one of the things that makes it arousing. When you embrace sexual inadequacy, you enable his desire to satisfy you and reinforce those desires with praise.
Size play, stamina play, and even talk of infidelity and cuckolding can be really exhilarating. The sexual power afforded by these types of play is jaw dropping. Not only is it sexual power but it is sexual power over your partner. This sexual power is an opportunity to gamify deep emotions like vulnerability, jealousy and humiliation. When you accept his vulnerability, you collect the sexual energy of the relationship back to you.
As you play, the most important part of the play is the narrative. Tell him why it is happening and why he deserves it. You can even extend the narrative. A few examples of fantasy narrative:
Your husband is probably just fine in bed, his cock is clearly smaller than the toy but most likely does the job just fine. So why would you even go down this road? Well let me tell you! Fear of sexual inadequacy causes a dopamine response which can be addictive. This dopamine response is the same sort of response as a fight or flight type of scenario but it is arousing and can be very addicting to both of us.
How important is sex in your relationship? If you are anything like me, your answer will be VERY. For me there are some nuances though. Sex is important to me because a physical connection is every bit as important as an emotional connection to me. This many not be the same for everyone but it is for me. If you value sex, you need to ask a follow up question. Is my partner unhappy with our sex life as well? If your answer is yes, you may need to talk about how to get on the same page physically. Some of us just aren't compatible sexually and it takes work to get on the same page. Sexual inadequacy and sexual humiliation play might just be the jumper cables to the nipples reboot that your relationship needs.
When sex is present, things are generally good even if the sex isn't actually that great. When sex is absent, it is noticeably absent and we crave a replacement for that energy. …
