I am not a dominatrix. I am not a mistress. I don't believe in female supremacy. I don't think women should rule the world. I don't even think that I am better in any way than my lovely husband Kev. As my Twitter following grows, so do the unsolicited daily requests for me to be someone's dom. They usually start with "Hi Mistress Emma, may I be your submissive?" or "Mistress Emma, how much do you charge for femdom or findom services?". The answer, zero, zilch, nada. Nope.
That's not what this site is about. Nothing against the pro dommes out there, you provide a service that many men (and some women) love. I'm simply not that. I work for a marketing company and I do food delivery on the side. Neither of those things translate to me whipping you or doing anything like that. You wouldn't ask me to build you a fence in your yard. Why? Because I'm not a fence-builder-person. Carpenter? I dunno. Anyway.
Ok, now for some gratuitous dominatrix cartoons.
A woman shouldn't need to don red or black patent leather to be allowed to have some caricature version of confidence. This fetish fashion might make you feel like you have confidence or might help you slip into character but it doesn't change who you are. It doesn't make you any more confident than wearing a stethoscope around your neck makes you a doctor. Despite being a mechanism for tapping into the power of your sexuality, I don't think female sexuality is something that should be on the fringe of society. Just as Fifty Shades of Grey may have gotten many things in the BDSM community wrong, I think the dominatrix stereotype gets female sexuality wrong. Female empowerment is about more than just sexually dominant positions for doin' it such as the Amazon position (not to be confused with the online retailer).
Another interesting thing is that the dominatrix isn't always what you think. Sometimes the dom is just a vehicle to other fetishes. Due to the way we villainize fetishes in our culture, men see the dom as the only path to acceptance for their foot fetish or tendency to a strong female archetype.
Let's take another quick break for some more gratuitous dominatrix cartoons.…
