Hey there, lovelies! Today I’m diving into a topic that’s near and dear to my heart: respect and submission in cuckold relationships. Now, not all cuckold couples follow this path, but in our dynamic, it’s something we’ve grown into and an absolute must. Let me take you through how respect and submission to the bull can enhance your experience and make it outstanding for everyone.
The Importance of Respect and Submission
In our relationship, which has undoubtedly made a significant shift into a cuckold relationship over the last year, my husband Kev and I have found that showing respect and submission to the bull is crucial. It sets the right tone and atmosphere, ensuring that everyone feels valued and appreciated. For us, it’s not just about the physical act but about creating a harmonious and respectful dynamic.
When Kev shows gratitude and respect to the bull, it elevates the bull’s position in the experience. It’s about acknowledging the bull’s role in giving me pleasure and enhancing our relationship. This respect extends from the initial contact to every interaction, creating a positive and fulfilling experience. It also adds to the fantasy, of which the bull is coming in and saving the day by giving me pleasure that Kev is unable to.
Finding the Right Bull
Finding the right bull is the first step (duh), and it’s Kev’s responsibility to start the search. He scours websites (primarily Reddit and Feeld) but these may vary greatly depending on your area. Tasking Kev with finding someone that I find appealing takes the hardest part out of my hands and puts it into my loving husband’s hands. Looking for someone who fits our criteria is a huge act of service and another way that he can show his acceptance and approval of this lifestyle. This process isn’t just about finding someone attractive; it’s about finding someone who understands and respects our dynamic.
Kev takes the time to vet potential bulls, engaging in conversations and getting a sense of their personality and intentions. He looks for someone who will respect our boundaries and contribute positively to our relationship. This vetting process is where Kev first shows his submission and gratitude, thanking the bull for considering us and being part of our journey.
Meeting the Bull
Once we find a potential bull, Kev shares photos and details with me. If I approve, we arrange to meet for a drink. This initial meeting is crucial—it’s where we get a feel for the bull’s energy and how well he meshes with us. There is never any expectation of the coffee or beer meetup leading to more and I don’t think we’ve ever let it go further.
During the meeting, Kev continues to show respect and submission. He listens attentively, engages respectfully, and expresses gratitude for the bull’s interest in us. This attitude helps establish a positive dynamic right from the start.
After the meeting, Kev and I discuss how things went and connect together to be completely certain that this bull is someone that we want to involve in our life. If we agree that the meetup went well, I will text the bull directly and continue planning. If it doesn’t go well, then Kev will do the dirty work for me (another act of service) and kindly say that it wasn’t a fit for us and thank the bull for his time.
Taking It to the Next Level
If the initial meeting goes well and we decide to take things further, Kev’s role becomes even more crucial. His attitude of gratitude and submission must continue. Here’s how we navigate this:
- Gratitude and Preparation: Kev shows his appreciation by ensuring everything is perfect for our encounters. He sets up the room or purchases a hotel room, makes sure everything is in place, and welcomes the bull with respect and gratitude.
- Setting the Scene: When we get to a scene, I typically ask Kev to disrobe first. This sets a tone of submission and expresses his eagerness to begin.
- Getting the Bull Ready: This is where Kev’s submission shines. If requested, he helps get the bull hard for me. This act is a powerful expression of his submission and respect, showing that he values the bull’s role in our dynamic.
- Cleaning Up and Fulfilling Requests: After our intimate moments, Kev accepts my instruction to clean me up with his mouth. We use condoms almost exclusively so cleanup is usually from my chest or tummy. After cleaning me, I instruct him to give the bull a heartfelt thank you as gratitude and acceptance for satisfying me. Then Kev takes care of any further cleanup of me and cleanup of the room, ensuring everything is back in order. He also fulfills any requests the bull or I might have, showing his continued submission and respect.
The Role of Humiliation
In our relationship, humiliation plays a part in the dynamic. Kev understands that his role involves not just respect and submission but also a willingness and acceptance of humiliation. It doesn’t hurt that humiliation is an absolutely huge turn on for him. This might involve apologizing when spoken to or as needed, always maintaining a respectful and humble demeanor.
Humiliation can be a powerful tool in reinforcing the cuckold dynamic. For us, it enhances Kev’s submission and highlights the bull’s dominant role. It’s a consensual and carefully managed part of our relationship that adds emotional depth and a furious intensity to our experiences.
Maintaining the Dynamic
Maintaining this dynamic requires ongoing effort and communication. Kev and I regularly discuss our experiences, ensuring that we’re both happy and fulfilled. We check in with each other and with our bulls, ensuring that everyone feels respected and valued.
While this entire experience is rooted in fantasy, it isn’t truly a fantasy. It is more of a ritual than a fantasy and we don’t feel like we are in character or at risk of breaking character. The whole thing is a heartfelt expression of emotion and not a charade or performance.
Kev’s submission and respect are central to maintaining our dynamic. It’s about more than just following orders; it’s about embracing his role and finding joy in it. His gratitude towards the bull and his respect for our relationship make our experiences deeply satisfying and harmonious. For us, it’s about more than just the physical act—it’s about creating a dynamic that enhances our relationship and brings us closer together.
So, whether you’re new to cuckolding or looking to deepen your existing dynamic, consider the roles of respect, humiliation and submission. It can transform your experiences and create an intensely fulfilling relationship for everyone. If the relationship with the bull progresses, as it often does the foundation of submission and acceptance makes it more comfortable to proceed to future dates and meetups with or without Kev’s participation.
Thanks for reading, lovely readers! I hope this gives you some insight into the importance of respect and submission and some insight into how our relationship has progressed over the last few months. I sure find it interesting how my entire view of cuckolding has gone from taboo to enjoyable. Feel free to share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below. Until next time!
Hello,
Great post.
So, these are other lovers appart of the fix one who lives with you two?
Thank you.
Well, I love the new dynamic.
Very arousing.
Thank you.
Very well written. Once the husband or B/F has accepted his subordinate role to the bull, he’ll also accept being locked in a chastity cage while the woman happily fulfills her sexual needs with another man. Once this is the established situation, I would go so far to suggest he must obtain permission from both wife and bull before he may be unlocked for an orgasm(no matter how much sexual frustration he feels) This will add an extra level of subordination, and support the idea that the wishes of his wife and her bull take priority over his.
P.S. A nice way to end a cuckolding date is to get into bed with your locked up guy at night and spoon. Cuddle up closely behind him. Make sure he can feel your boobs on his back, gently grind your pussy on his tailbone, reach around and gently stroke his nipples. You’ll have some nice orgasms to end he day, while he remains very hard for a woman, but securely locked – Just as he should be! .:)
The way you describe it, cuckolding is the energy that goes along with the act and not the act of having sex in itself.
lbp6855 –That’s one way of looking at it I suppose. I prefer to think of it as a bit of both..
This post probably describes the heart of what it is to be a cuckold. The act of having sex with another man with your partners approval alone sounds like casual dating of some kind. If there is no deeper internal response from the man, it probably isn’t cuckolding. There needs to be some element of submission to the bull, either voluntarily of involuntarily. There probably are many people who by default are cuckolds. Men who have partners that were having an affair historically were called cuckolds because other people who lived in the town/village knew about what was going on even though he didn’t. It wasn’t an open relationship because of the humiliation and power dynamic behind it. The wife involuntarily made the husband submissive to the bull by having sex with another while everybody knew about it. The public humiliation of it made him submissive to the bull in the eyes of everybody around them. At least that is what I read about cuckolding from my research. Even if you listen to bulls talk about cuckolding, it is just as much about being dominant over the man as it is giving pleasure to the woman.