Hello, lovelies! Emma here, and today I want to talk about something that I think every couple experiences at some point, especially in relationships where the power dynamic leans towards the woman. Yep, you guessed it—sexual pressure. We’ve all been there, haven’t we? Laying on the couch and you feel something prodding your lower back. Nope, no thanks not tonight. That moment when your man’s eyes start to wander south, and you know exactly what he’s hoping for. But let’s be honest, sometimes we just don’t feel like being sexual, or maybe we’re not even sure if we want to be. And that’s okay!
What’s not okay, however, is feeling like intimacy and connection will be killed off by the pressure of those expectations. The good news? You can easily remove the sexual expectation by simply sending him off to take care of it himself. You’ll find that once he’s dealt with that pent-up energy, he’ll come back ready to snuggle up and enjoy some low-pressure, connection-building cuddling without that pesky expectation hovering over both of you. It sets a very firm message that you aren't in the mood while still conveying an understanding that he has needs of his own.
So, without further ado, here are twenty ways you can lovingly, but firmly, tell your man to take care of his needs and come back to you when he’s done. We’ll start with mild suggestions and work our way to something a little more wild for those of you who love to mix in a bit of cheeky fun!
- "Honey, why don’t you go to the bathroom and take care of that? Come back when you’re done, so we can cuddle."
A gentle nudge that lets him know you’re not in the mood but still want to be close afterward.
- "Babe, go in the other room and handle things. Then we can get back to our movie."
This one’s perfect for when you’re in the middle of a cozy night in, and he starts getting handsy.
- "Darling, go take a few minutes to yourself, and then we can continue our cuddle session."
A sweet way to say, "I’m here for the snuggles, not the sex."
- "Love, why don’t you go release some tension, and then we can enjoy some quiet time together?"
A soft, caring suggestion that shows you value the intimacy but not the expectation.
- "Sweetheart, go handle your business, and then let’s relax together."
Direct but still kind, letting him know you’re all about the afterglow, minus the prelude.
- "Why don’t you go take care of that, and I’ll be waiting right here for you when you’re done?"
This one leaves no room for misinterpretation—he knows exactly what you mean.
- "Babe, go relieve some of that energy, and then we can snuggle up without distractions."
You’re setting the stage for distraction-free intimacy, no pressure attached.
- "Honey, I think you need a few minutes to yourself. Go ahead and take care of it."
This one’s straightforward but still warm, letting him know you’re thinking of him.
- "Darling, go take a little break and come back when you’re ready to cuddle without any expectations."
You’re giving him a clear signal that the cuddle session is strictly platonic (and welcomed!).
- "Why don’t you go take a moment to yourself, and then we can enjoy each other’s company?"
A gentle reminder that you value the connection without the added pressure.
