Using a sex doll in the bedroom is typically considered a thing to do in the absence of a partner but what about including a sex doll with your partner as an element of humiliation. Sex dolls, pocket pussies and Fleshlights are not a humiliating experience in and of themselves but when you combine them with elements of humiliation in your relationship, they can be quite fun and entertaining. This borders greatly on small penis humiliation and other types of humiliation but since it relies heavily on a sex doll, it wraps many of those elements into one exciting new relationship wrinkle. This is all neatly packaged into a broader overarching concept of husbation.
Humiliation can be a escape from reality and while it may seem unconventional or uncomfortable to some, it can be highly arousing to others especially in the context of adding new excitement for long term partners. The appeal of erotic humiliation can vary from person to person, but here are some factors that may contribute to its appeal for some individuals; power dynamics, emotional intensity, taboo, transgression, emotional release, trust and intimacy. In fact, 37% of respondents in this Harvard study stated that they have engaged in a role play fantasy of some kind. Fetishes are a healthy form of self expression that couples can enjoy together. That's right, fetishes like humiliation are healthy and a great outlet to build and support the foundation of intimacy in your relationship. Repressing sexual fetishes can generally be more harmful than expressing fetishes in a safe environment.
Some reasons that your partner may find humiliation arousing:
- Giving control
- Taking control over an insecurity
- Immersing ones self and eliminating distractions
- Working through sexual inhibitions
- Arousal through trust and vulnerability
- Mental, emotional, and physical release after stress
- A feeling of mental and/or social rewards
- Knowing they are still loved even if humiliated
The first step is to purchase a sex doll or toy and they vary in price from very inexpensive (under $50) to very expensive (thousands). I would highly recommend starting small and building on that if you enjoy the sex toy humiliation role playing. We select a small sex doll with a torso and breasts but you can go as small as a Fleshlight which is portable and easily concealed for storage or discretion. We don't have much experience in this area but from the reviews I've seen the heavier the better is typically the rule. Also make sure that you use the correct type of lube to not break down your sex doll. You should absolutely not use any lubes that are oil based, they will destroy the material.
So you've selected a toy, and now on we need to pick out a name. He should not select a name, you should select a name for him. I just googled "stripper names" and got a very nice selection. Ours is named Crystal, we don't know anyone with that name and she has a sexy appeal to her name so we went with it! Remember that Crystal is your sex slave and will do all of the sexual things that you don't want to do and thanks to Crystal no longer need to do anymore.…
God damn that sounds hot I’m most definitely sending this article to my wife! Getting to see your relationship evolving from afar is a beautiful thing. As I guy who is deeply into Sph I would find this incredibly erotic and from what I’ve been able to ascertain from your blog so does your husband. I think at the end of the day sexually and non sexually that is what makes a relationship work. understanding what makes your partner tick and giving them that from a loving place.
My wife and I tried this last night, I bought a sex doll after I saw this blog and it finally came in yesterday. I have a very difficult time cumming from sex in fact I’ve posted in your delayed ejaculation forum in the past. We thought this might be a fun way to explore together.
I shared this blog with her and she decided also to name our new friend Crystal (at least for now). After I got out of the shower I got dress end, she instructed me to strip naked and fuck Crystal while she watched. I did as told and it was very hot making eye contact with her while I fucked Crystal. The entire time that I was fucking Crystal my wife was reminding me that I’m not good enough and that Crystal is doing us a favor by giving my tiny useless penis something to fuck. She pulled up pictures of her boyfriend on her phone and even started texting him while making comments, many of which were slightly modified from the list above.
When I felt like I was getting close I begged her to let me cum inside her. She reluctantly said yes and spread her legs for me and said get lube and make it quick. I removed myself from Crystal, got some lube and got on top of her. Within just a few minutes I emptied myself into her for what might be the second time in our 10 year marriage. The intimacy and closeness we’ve felt in the last day or so has been wonderful. The recommendations above also made her much more comfortable with playing with the shared degradation/not good enough kink that we enjoy together. My wife and I both enjoy your blog and it continues to enhance our marriage and sex life. Thank you so much!
Thank you for your comment, this is deeply satisfying for me to read and goes to show that fetishes can lead to some very exciting breakthroughs. I love your wife’s femdom vibe and I would love to do a Q&A about you and your experience with the inferiority fetish and perhaps even the delayed ejaculation challenges. If that interests you, would you be kind enough to direct message me?
That sounds like fun! I never would have thought of it myself.
For several years using a fleshlight was one of the standard ways for me to cum. Not being well endowed and having some problems of ED and PE we bought one day a penissleeve to try to satisfy my girlfriend more then I was capable of and after some try-outs we both liked it and I was even able to cum in it. For some time it was the only way I could make her cum. When it got more serious with one of her lovers she did not want me to have PIV-sex with her even not with the penissleeve and she did not want to have any contact at all with my semen in any way. Once she went exclusively with her boyfriend for PIV she bought a fleshlight for me. In the beginning she would make me cum in it but after some time I had to do it myself. Frequently when I was insisting to have some sexual release she made me use the fleshlight in front of her what was quite humiliating but very arousing especially when fucking the fleshlight instead of stroking it up and down over my penis.
Being transparent it added also a visual aspect what gave us extra arousal from seeing my penis through it thrusting and seeing me ejaculating in it giving it an extra humiliating and pathetic aspect. She also teased me regularly that I then had to clean my plastic girlfriend…