In the realm of relationships, there's a fundamental truth that often goes unspoken: men have an innate need to help women. This instinct is deeply embedded in male psychology and shows up in a variety of ways, from the desire to protect to the drive to provide. For many men, seeing the woman they care about happy and satisfied is the ultimate reward. This isn’t just about grand gestures or heroic feats—it’s about the simple, everyday acts of service that create a bond of mutual respect and affection.
Whether you’re in the early stages of dating or have been married for years, understanding and leveraging this natural tendency can lead to a more fulfilling, harmonious relationship. By setting an expectation of service and helpfulness from the start, you can create a dynamic where both partners feel valued and appreciated. In this blog, we’ll explore how to cultivate this dynamic and why it’s so effective in fostering a strong, loving relationship.
Normally my blogs go straight to sex or some topic of the sexual identity in a relationship but today's is about the baseline, core, foundational tenets that set the stage for everything else. If you have a man who is helpful, he is a good man and he is a man (like my Kev) who will support you through it all as you learn and grow together as a couple.
To understand why men have this innate need to help women, it’s important to consider the psychological and evolutionary factors at play.
Evolutionary Instincts: Throughout human history, men have been the protectors and providers. This role was essential for the survival of the species. Men’s brains are wired to seek out ways to be useful and to provide for those they care about. When a man helps a woman, it triggers feelings of purpose and fulfillment, reinforcing his sense of identity as a protector.
Emotional Satisfaction: Beyond the evolutionary aspect, helping and pleasing women brings emotional satisfaction to men. There’s a deep sense of gratification that comes from seeing a woman smile after he’s done something for her. This is why many men derive so much pleasure from doing small favors, giving gifts, or completing tasks for their partners—it makes them feel good about themselves and their role in the relationship.…
“yers who said that I couldn’t write a PG blog. This one is almost Disney friendly!”
😆 Funny!
Great article because… it can be safely shown to doubting women: no chastity belts, cuckolding or torture – this is what you need to start))
After all, by revealing our desires, we discover a whole world that did not exist in our partner’s head before the conversation.