If you haven't read my article entitled taking the reigns and you are new to the concept of a female led relationship I would recommend that you start there.
Enforced chastity is the practice of denying sex to someone. This is typically done with the use of a penis cage. Penis cages confine the growth of the penis during an erection and can become quite uncomfortable which results in the brain telling the penis to become flaccid again. Eventually this constant correction trains his mind to make his penis hard only when you request and authorize it. It also has the added benefit of preventing masturbation which is a hidden killer of relationships. An enormous part of a healthy relationship is sexual energy.
I used to worry that chastity was creating an illusion of intimacy. The more we experiment with orgasm control, the more I feel that he is not behaving this way to get uncaged but because we feel closer and more intimate. The results are very quick so it can almost appear like a night and day difference which made me initially suspicious.
Cock cages are growing in popularity as they are getting visibility in mainstream press and the designs are less intrusive to movement than barbaric cages of yesteryear. Cages are easily purchased on Amazon, eBay or other online retailers. They are cheap, especially if you go with the Chinese brands and I would suggest that you start there. If you want this to fail, pull out the cage and tell him to put it on. You need to approach this more delicately. Tell him that you've got a kinky new game to play. That may pique his interest and start a conversation. You don't want the cage to be a punishment but more of a tool that you can use together to heighten your love life. From his standpoint you want this to be a new and exciting toy. From your standpoint, you want this to be a tool to help mold his behavior. If you are denying and controlling the sexual aspect of your relationship he should be compliant because he is used to your sexual dominance by this point.
When you try on the cage with him, do it for a short period of time. 10 or 15 minutes. He should have minimal discomfort during that time and may even find the attention to his nether regions kinky or arousing. Wait a day or two, then see if he can go an hour. Two hours. See if he can make it overnight. They can be uncomfortable but a swipe of Vaseline against the touch points on the underside of the cage will get him through the night without complaint. Make sure that you unlock him first thing in the morning. Wipe him with a washcloth and reward him with some praise, a few tugs or a quick blowjob. No cumming of course.
You want him to associate the cage with pleasure and positive affirmation from you but not necessarily with sexual release. Check on him several times a day, grab his crotch when you are alone and tell him that you are just doing a cage check. Compliment him on how he looks and how sexy the cage makes him. At this point I really do like the look of a locked penis over the a flaccid penis so for me at least, that isn't any stretch of the truth. You want the cage to equal your sexual acceptance for him, with time the cage itself will bring emotional satisfaction and self-worth. You want him to feel wanted when wearing the cage, you want him to desire wearing the cage because of the way you treat him. Again, don't go for too long with him in the cage this time as the discomfort (negative) may start to outweigh the praise and reward that you are providing. You want to keep it on long enough to reinforce the positive stimuli that you are attaching to it. From there, put the cage on a shelf for a week or two and ignore him sexually for the most part. He will quickly remember the attention that he received while in the cage and subconsciously yearn for it. You want him to want the cage and actually request it. You really want him to think that it is his idea to be locked. …
