Newly chastised

I love that you are working together to improve the quality of your marriage. You spurting off three times a day simply isn't worth the damage that you've acknowledged is happening to your marriage. I think we would all love if you can keep us updated. Maybe even have your wife post - or add some of her thoughts to this post. I'd love to see how your perspectives differ.

Remember to communicate with her. Ensure that you are both on the same page, partnering to ensure that you get the results that you set out for.

Thank you for taking the time to write back to me! I definitely would like to continue writing updates and getting feedback from others who are working through similar experiences. That's why I'm grateful that you are building this community here. 

 You are so right - for me to spurt from masturbating is definitely not worth the emotional harm that it has caused us. I feel like I'm finally seeing how meaningless it is to simply watch porn and pleasure myself. The two orgasms that I have had since being in chastity have been so much stronger and more fulfilling than anytime when I masturbate alone.

One thing that has surprised me is how emotionally dependent the cage has made me feel towards my wife. I find myself needing to cuddle with her and seek physical and verbal affection and approval from her much more often than I usually do. When I had the cage off for most of one day, those feelings started to recede, but as soon as she locked it back on, the same intense feelings immediately came back again. Is this something that other men have experienced?

Speaking from the non-male perspective, I've heard this quite a bit. When the cage is off, they walk side by side. When the cage snaps on, he instinctively walks a step behind her. There is a tremendous amount of mental changes that happen the moment the cage is snapped shut. Maybe not the first time but once your brain is familiar with what the cage means, you instinctively put your tail between your legs and submit to her authority.

Posted by: Emma

There is a tremendous amount of mental changes that happen the moment the cage is snapped shut. Maybe not the first time but once your brain is familiar with what the cage means, you instinctively put your tail between your legs and submit to her authority.

This is so very true. Even after an orgasm, once the cage is back on, a change comes over you that is amazing (and it's more powerful if you were denied and re-caged). It's a wonderful thing and I'd think that more people, especially women, would be seeking the change it generates. When the cage is on, all I want to do is pleasure her, please her, and generally submit to her. And it gives me pleasure to do so.

I’m curious... going from 2-3 times a day to much less frequently, do you have trouble climaxing too soon?

If anything, I think it helps you understand your climax better. While yes, it will make you extremely sensitive when you are uncaged, it makes you more aware of your body and even more complete control of when to allow yourself to become fully aroused. There is still no control over your erections however it may help you learn to separate true arousal from your body's autonomous erection response.

But yes. At the beginning it will be very easy to climax very early and your KH will just need to use teasing to help keep the two of you in control of your body's response.