That's the point!

My queen who has agreed to keep me from orgasming this weeks says, "The problem is that you are so comprimised all the time." That's the best part I reply, while rubbing her feet with almond oil. She might have said confused instead of comprimised, I don't remember  as I had no pants, and a tremendous boner and was pretty comprimised at the time. Lol

That state of being incredibly connected, horny and in love is my drug, and she is my dealer. 

I think overcoming all the notions that men want to be on top, and the goal is orgasm, and that men don't serve women is the biggest challenge when moving your relationship in this direction.