Kevin was good last week, Sunday came around and he got his weekly release. I decided not to lock him up this week. We don’t do that every week, sometimes we do it for two weeks, sometimes for two days. Just not this week. A few conversations on our forum about the honor system made me decide to give that a go this week.
We had sex yesterday (Monday) and we both had a good time, he wasn’t permitted to cum with sex – as is the norm for us. This morning he woke up and all he would talk about is getting a release. I reminded him that he isn’t locked this week and he should be on his best behavior if he wants this to happen again. If not, we can easily go back to using the cage.
He is off work today so one of two things will happen, he is either going to masturbate today and be somewhat reserved and distant when I see him tonight or he is not going to masturbate and will nag me to death tonight. For those that use the honor system, how do you handle that three day itch? Assuming he doesn’t pop off during the day today, I know what to expect this evening but I also know that there will be a complete reversal the following day. Tomorrow he will be extra-loving and I will be showered with attention, massages, conversation. All of the things that make orgasm control such an integral part of our relationship. I truly enjoy seeing both sides of his personality and this feels like the most effective way to get a good balance of both. The worst part is the three day itch; as I call it.
Seems like that three day mark is when the whining and complaining begins. When locked, it isn’t as big of a deal because I just wave the keys and remind him about Sunday. Either that or a quick glance at my key necklace which I wear nearly every day that he is locked as a reminder. Without the keys I feel a bit powerless, maybe that’s just me but I don’t feel the same level of control when I don’t have the 🔑. I told him not to masturbate today, let’s see what happens.