Locktober is a fun and sexy challenge that couples do each year to see how much sex controls their relationship and dabble into the world of male chastity. Locktober is a challenge to put his sex drive aside and come together as one. I've written several other blogs about this wonderous time of the year and you are welcome to check those out. The goal of Locktober is to refrain from orgasm for the entire month of October. Remember that going even a week for some men may be absolutely ludicrous since he has conditioned himself to ride that orgasmic high on a daily basis from the time he was a teenager. This can be extremely difficult but in can be very impactful for the relationship and understanding the needs of each other.
As with most things, the hardest part is getting things underway. In this blog we will set out a cheat-sheet for your Locktober success. Reading this in March or June? No worries! You can do the challenge any month of the year. The first step is picking out a good cage. Unfortunately chastity devices are not always carried in your local sex shop so you will probably need to purchase them online. Go with a cheap one or two so you can figure out which style suits you best. Many couples go through two or three devices before they find the one that fits best. Alternatively there are companies that will custom fit devices however I'd still argue that you should experiment with a few cheap cages before spending a couple hundred dollars on a custom gold plated cage-o-magnifico.
Prior to starting Locktober, it is important that you try it on a few times beforehand. Wear it for an hour or two and always reward him after completing his hour or two. The cage should be a source of praise and joy together, it is not a punishment. Talk to him deeply before getting started. Some great conversation questions: Does Locktober make you scared or excited? Don't accept a one word answer, he will almost undoubtedly say both, ask him to elaborate on each.
Locking him up has some amazing benefits and I would go so far as calling it a relationship lifehack. Locking him up takes his male sexual energy and bottles it up, redirecting it toward you. After a few days, you will notice more physical touching and attention along with a more thoughtful and chivalrous guy. Do you remember how he acted when you were first dating? The guy you fell in love with? Introduce chastity into your relationship and you will be able to welcome that guy back into your life. If you are new to keeping your relationship under lock and key, here are a few blogs that you might find interesting.
Emma, again this is fantastic information and fun presentation. Finally, someone did a very practical guide about having a successful Locktober. You are helping to the community of new Keyholders immensely.
A small suggestion to make this post even better is: to integrate your own practices (sex without orgasm, pegging, or teasing out of cage) directly into this guide as a couple of optional wild cards into the calendar, maybe using a different border card color. I mean optional as these tasks are not mandatory for completing the Locktober challenge, but they are fun to try and spice things up as you said.
I have been reading your blog from the beginning, and I wish to thank you for your hard work and sustained posting after so many years.
Thanks so much! You know, I started to go that route but the blog started to read like a choose your own adventure book. If you are old enough to know what a choose your own adventure book is, you’ve really dated yourself. Hah. I think what I will do is create a different/alternative one later in the month for those who are more comfortable with chastity, pegging and those who aren’t beginner level. I wanted this one to come off with the basics as to not scare anyone away. I agree with you but I just couldn’t find a way to execute it well. Stay tuned and thanks for reading all of my sustained wording over so many years!
Also I really think the timeline format works so expect more of them.
The “for dummies” Co. is a pretty sophisticated group. They don’t publish anything without being sure of demand, so there must be a lot of locked up males out there.
I wonder if they will ask me to take it down? Hopefully they realize it was done in jest.
Great straight forward blog presented in a manner that would make a Goddess run and hide. So many articles on the net have such unreasonable expectations that most Goddesses are turned off by all the work! One suggestion is to get a canister of KY Delay spray and use prior to cleanings to avoid any surprise eruptions, especially for those use to cumming on a regular basis! Happy Locktober all!
Are you saying that it comes off as too much work and would make a goddess run and hide? What can I do to lighten it up some?
Sorry, I meant that your blog does not want to make a Goddess run and hide. 🙂
Oh good, I never know how these blogs come off. Glad to hear this one appeals to novices and the running and hiding to a minimum.
Just curious how many folks make it through Locktober without any kind of orgasm for him? Especially if you are pegging him. If there is ever a time your husband/boyfriend is going to cum while caged it would seem like Locktober would be it!
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