Today we are going to talk about the birds and the bees, something I seem to talk about often. It could be because I am forever fascinated by the topic or because I run a blog that seems to focus on this very distinct part of our existence as humans.
As the brilliant human you are, you might surmise that today we are going to talk about sex again but not just any sex. Today we are going to talk talk about in-pair copulation (IPC) and extra-pair copulation (EPC). Sounds clinical, right?
But don’t let the technical terms fool you. These little acronyms unlock some of the biggest truths about human desire, fidelity, jealousy, freedom—and how modern marriages are evolving to handle the deep, messy, and beautiful chaos of love and lust.
As someone who blogs about strong women and loving female authority, I’m always drawn to these crossroads between science and sensuality. So today, I want to give you a juicy, smart, and yes, slightly flirty walk through the biology and psychology of IPC and EPC, and why they matter so much to the way we design our romantic lives. You can leave your PHD at home, we won't get overly scientific as evidenced by my cute little graphic above with the formal bird and the sexy bee.
IPC stands for In-Pair Copulation. That’s the sex you have within your primary romantic relationship—your marriage, your committed partnership, your person.
EPC, on the other hand, is Extra-Pair Copulation. That’s the sex you have outside your primary relationship. Think affairs, threesomes, open marriages, cuckolding, cheating, swinging, polyamory, sneaky hookups, or fully agreed-upon flings. If IPC is what keeps the hearth warm, EPC is the lightning strike outside the window.…
