Have you ever felt like your man is more distracted than he should be? Maybe his mind seems elsewhere, his attention feels scattered, or you catch him scrolling through social media a little too long, looking at things he probably shouldn’t. You’re not alone. Modern men are constantly bombarded with sexual imagery—whether it’s on Instagram, TikTok, or even just walking down the street: it’s exhausting.
What if I told you there’s a way to shift that focus back where it belongs—on you, on your relationship, on real intimacy instead of mindless distractions? That’s where male chastity comes in. And before you start thinking it’s just some weird kink thing, hear me out. It’s a relationship tool, and when used right, it can transform the way you and your partner connect on an emotional and physical level.
Let's dive into five compelling reasons why male chastity benefits your relationship and makes it stronger, more intimate, and way more fulfilling for both of you.
Men are constantly being conditioned to see women as sexual objects. Advertisements, movies, social media—it’s everywhere. And whether we like it or not, it affects how they think. Even the most loving, respectful men can fall into the trap of viewing women through a sexualized lens rather than as full, complex human beings.
When a man is in chastity, he no longer has the easy option of indulging in those mindless urges. He can’t scroll, fantasize, and then take care of things himself. Instead, he starts to actually see you. Your intelligence, your strength, your emotions—everything about you beyond just the physical. He learns to appreciate the depth of who you are because he’s no longer feeding that part of his brain that craves quick, empty pleasure.
- He starts valuing emotional intimacy just as much as physical intimacy.
- You become the center of his attention, not the internet, porn, or fantasies.
- He engages with you in a more meaningful, present way.
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This is a great article Emma, a concise, safe introduction for any couple and especially more vanilla couples. I cannot recommend make chastity enough. I think it would help build a lot of healthier marriages and might even make the world a better place if men were able to truly empathise and support others.
Handing over control of my orgasms to my wife has been a game changer and I believe that male chastity would make a positive difference to many marriages. It’s strange as despite being in a constant state of arousal, I’m more focussed, motivated and happy. I can’t explain why but when denied orgasm I really see the world through my wife’s eyes and want to do whatever I can to make her life better. Yet it’s not just to earn sex or a release, its a genuine empathy. I also communicate more freely with vulnerability. I am more patient and empathetic to those around me.
For us, orgasm control did not arrive through porn. We were a young vanilla couple struggling to conceive. I had to abstain for three days for me to do my part in providing the best chance of conceiving. We had to do this for a while and I got a serious thrill from my wife telling me when I was allowed to orgasm and when I was not. It all developed from here as we both enjoyed her control over this intimate part of my life.
Why would I enjoy make chastity?
I love how it brings back the feelings of when I first met my wife and started to date her (30 years ago!) When I see her naked it’s as exciting as seeing her for the first time again. Her touch feels special, holding hands, cuddles and kisses all feel intense again like when we were teenagers. We are so much more intimate now. Sex is different but more fulfilling for both of us.
Having my orgasm taken off the table means that I enjoy any play. I’m not subconsciously rushing to get my orgasm and I’ve learned to find immense pleasure from her pleasure. I find I can be in the moment and enjoy all the sensations that I previously would have rushed through. We have explored new erogenous zones on my body. I have learned to enjoy the feeling of being denied. There’s something about being controlled by your sexy wife in such a way. To be used to provide her with pleasure then put away when She’s finished. I now find this satisfying. I love that my orgasms are for her to have if/when/how She wants them.
now that I’m aging, it is nice to feel horny again as my libido is generally a lot lower than it used to be. It makes me feel young and excited for the future again! Although, years ago I used to struggle when she made me wait 3 days and I remember feeling proud when we got to weekly releases. Now I need weeks of denial to get the same effect due to this libido change. I’m currently over a month and not wanting this feeling to end but ultimately its not my decision to make which is the most satisfying feeling.
As I said in the beginning, I cannot recommend make chastity enough. It need not be especially kinky either. My wife hates the idea of a chastity device so we don’t use one. I’m expected to use self discipline and she’ll just stop all of this fun and attention if I cheat.
Don’t feel bad if you lapse or fail to meet arbitrary denial goals. We lapsed and restarted many times. Just have fun with it and eventually there’s a good chance it will become a more profoundly positive change for yourself and your partner. My wife knows that I’m a much better person in chastity and so she’s pretty committed to it now.
Aargh! Just reread. *male chastity not make chastity. I hate word prediction, it gives me the shirts
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