An Introduction to Sexual Humiliation

An Introduction to Sexual Humiliation

by | Jun 5, 2019 | Discipline, Having Fun With It, Non-Monogamy | 3 comments

Humiliation is a varied thing amongst men. Some guys really enjoy it. Some guys like it in small, teasing doses. Some guys crave it when locked up as an assertion of their submissiveness in the relationship. Depending on your guy it can be great fun or it can be offensive and hurtful. We should start by determining the differences between humiliation and embarrassment. Embarrassment is brought upon by ourselves, humiliation is brought upon by others. To humiliate someone is to exert power over them and that is likely when I enjoy doing it in small doses.

My ex-boyfriend had a smaller than average penis and he wanted to constantly be reminded about his size. I of course indulged his fantasy and would refer to it as "tiny" or "acorn" or other not-so-nice things. He did go to a therapist at one point, not specifically about his penis but it did come up. The therapist told him that he was eroticizing what had a been a very negative feeling for him. His mind made his small penis erotic to him as a coping mechanism.

A cuckold is the husband of an adulterous wife. In evolutionary biology, the term is also applied to males who are unwittingly investing parental effort in offspring that are not genetically their own. Cuckolding is a sexual fetish that seems to be growing in popularity.

From the research I can see, cuckolding fetishes come from the man sexualizing something that he fears. If he fears being cheated upon, his mind sexualizes cheating as a coping mechanism and the sexualized fear becomes the fetish and thus takes away its power to hurt him.

For other men, the cuckolding fetish is a progressive form of compersion where the man wants the woman to feel as much pleasure as she can. He shares in her pleasure of taking another lover because he genuinely wants to see her sexual fulfillment. For these guys, it is about the woman being unashamed of what she wants and how she wants it.

Other men such as the boss from our previous blog do this sort of thing out of control. These guys feel like they are in charge of everything. At the end of the day, they simply don't want to make any decisions. Having power in the bedroom reminds them of work which is neither relaxing nor comforting. These guys want to let go of work which can mean control, power and even respect. With the loss of control comes the loss of responsibility which can be a bit of a burden to turn off.…

Welcome!

Sign up for free access to this blog. Free members get access to stories and blogs like this one along with an email round-up of weekly posts.

Free Access

Up to 3 Posts/Week

  • Ad Supported
  • New Blog Notifications
  • Weekly Summary
Free

Supporter

Unlimited Access

  • Ad Free
  • Supporter-Only Forum
  • Request Blog Topics
  • New Blog Notifications
  • Weekly Summary
$5/mo or $50/yr
Successful Relationships are 50/50

Successful Relationships are 50/50

by | Apr 30, 2019 | About Her, Getting Started, Non-Monogamy | 2 comments

In a successful relationship, decisions are shared, money is shared and both parties have an equal say in the relationship and the direction of the couple. So how can this be a thing when you've literally got him under lock and key? Why would you want this when you can exert total control over your household?

I'll argue that the traditional male/female relationship is not really equal parts due to his subconscious hidden agenda. When he isn't locked, relationship decisions are 33% her needs, 33% his needs, 34% his penis's needs. Removing his penis from the decision-making process is essential to ensure that the couple is on a level playing field with each other. By holding the key, she is ensuring that he is making decisions with his mind and nothing else. Compromise in a relationship is essential because no two humans will ever be in complete agreement. It will always be necessary for one partner to submit to the other in certain decisions.

Let's go back to the basics of your female led relationship. There are several levels of female-led relationships, for the sake of this article lets number them as 1-4.

  1. Female leads in certain ways and certain minor aspects of the relationship.
  2. The female takes the lead in everyday life and the household but clear boundaries are set in which aspects of the relationship are under her control. This may or may not spill over into some slight kinky bedroom behaviors.
  3. Not only does the female take the lead but she takes a controlling interest in the relationship and all decision making. If the couple cannot come to a resolution, the final say is always hers. The female takes over most male roles and the male takes roles that are commonly associated with the female. This type of female-led relationship almost always spills over into the bedroom into spanking, chastity, pegging and perhaps some light humiliation, teasing or other activities.
  4. The female at this level will exert total and complete control over her man and treats him as a servant in all aspects of their relationship. The male's opinions are typically not considered when making family decisions. This includes household decisions, finances, chores and any other components of the relationship including sex. This level of female-led relationship most commonly includes some sort of mild to extreme cuckolding and humiliation.

I believe that levels one through three are respectful of both parties and are sustainable for long term relationships. With level four, the woman will quickly tire of being on her pedestal and the male will either give up on pleasing her or become so meek that he is essentially nonexistent in the relationship.

As I've stated in previous articles, I do believe that male submission has very little to do with their strength and character as a man. To me, it would be difficult to respect a man in a level 4 type of relationship simply because I do value him and everything that he brings. …

Welcome!

Sign up for free access to this blog. Free members get access to stories and blogs like this one along with an email round-up of weekly posts.

Free Access

Up to 3 Posts/Week

  • Ad Supported
  • New Blog Notifications
  • Weekly Summary
Free

Supporter

Unlimited Access

  • Ad Free
  • Supporter-Only Forum
  • Request Blog Topics
  • New Blog Notifications
  • Weekly Summary
$5/mo or $50/yr
Monogamy is Boring

Monogamy is Boring

by | Apr 22, 2019 | Getting Started, Having Fun With It, Non-Monogamy | 8 comments

Alright maybe men aren't boring but monogamy can get boring. Our entire lives we are taught that we need to find our prince charming, marry him with some big extravagant wedding and live happily ever after. Our husband should be our best friend and our soulmate. That one man should be our only sexual partner for the rest of our lives. Despite society telling us that monogamy is the only way that a woman can respectively have sex, it isn't how we are wired. Long term relationships are safe and comfortable but our bodies simply aren't wired for them.

You probably think I am going to start making a case for polyandry or cuckolding or something like that. I'm not. I actually love the idea behind society's relationship partnership concept. Maybe I've been brainwashed or don't know better but I just like the idea of feeling comfortable with finding my "one". Even if you sometimes feel like you may not be wired that way, it is important to figure out how to keep sex with the same guy interesting. I will say that the "newness" of a relationship is enticing. The butterflies, the unknown, the new touch, the new smells, everything. How can you recreate those without venturing out to a different lover?

If you haven't already figured it out, I love figuring out how to manipulate the way our bodies are wired to increase happiness and relationship success. This article is about figuring out what we can do to manipulate our bodies into being happy with this one-man concept. It is a fact that women get bored in bed faster than men do. Newsweek recently published an article stating that moving in with your boyfriend can kill your sex drive. So what is a lady to do?

Let's mix things up a bit! I think much of this comfortability is to blame. When men get comfortable, they stop courting us. Since our sex drive is strongly driven by emotions, we stop getting our emotional needs met. We need to constantly be the object of their affection and planning a weekly date night just doesn't cut it. Remember what we did at the beginning of our relationship? Remember what we did when you were trying to win my affection? At the beginning of the relationship, he was submissive to us.


Let's start with why the courtship was there in the first place. He wanted sex! It doesn't matter if sex happened on the first for fifty first date, we controlled when sex happened. That gives us the obvious conclusion that courtship was driven by sexual desire. If courtship was driven by sexual desire, how do we get that sexual desire back? We create sexual desire by taking control of his orgasms! With focused sexual desire, we can get the courtship that we need back int our relationship. It may sound crazy but it works and you will see results very quickly. Check out this blog on managing your man's release for more information.

You will find that his entire personality can change in just a few short days after you start taking control of his orgasms. Until his body is familiar with the process he will get a bit cranky for the first few days but after that, the magic really starts happening. Don't take my word for it, give it a shot!…

Welcome!

Sign up for free access to this blog. Free members get access to stories and blogs like this one along with an email round-up of weekly posts.

Free Access

Up to 3 Posts/Week

  • Ad Supported
  • New Blog Notifications
  • Weekly Summary
Free

Supporter

Unlimited Access

  • Ad Free
  • Supporter-Only Forum
  • Request Blog Topics
  • New Blog Notifications
  • Weekly Summary
$5/mo or $50/yr
In Defense of Submissive Men

In Defense of Submissive Men

by | Apr 15, 2019 | About Her, Non-Monogamy, Profiles | 20 comments

So much of the material that you find on the internet about male submission and female dominance tends to minimize the value of the submissive man. If a man shows his feelings, he is somehow less valuable than a "macho" man. Boys are still taught to suppress their emotions and the boys that show emotions are valued less than the boys who express themselves. I wholeheartedly reject the alpha-male, beta-male concept entirely.

Traditional men are seen as conquering women and moving on to the next until they grow weary of the sexual conquests and settle for a woman that checks all the boxes. Submissive men are typically serial monogamists that seek to honor and become friends with their woman without "conquering" them. Submissive men seek to avoid the traditional power struggle from a relationship since they desire to be supportive and devoted.

As a society, we minimize these men who seek to bring value and loving submission to a relationship. These men crave women that make relationship decisions for them. A submissive man searches for a woman suitable of his loving devotion and dedicates himself to her. The femdom stereotype seeks to suggest that a woman should degrade the man and make him feel that he is worthless. This is remarkably easy to do since the submissive man takes the majority of his self worth and relationship validation from his ability to please his woman.

I would argue that a woman's responsibility with a submissive man is to build him up and support his submission inasmuch as she feels comfortable. If he wishes to give foot massages every night, do all of the housework and take care of the children - who are we to say that this is not normal or acceptable in our society?

So much of the dominant female stereotype suggests that submissive men should be locked, cuckolded and cast aside for another, stronger more virile man. I personally believe that as submissive man does not equal a weaker man. A man can be both submissive and strong just as a dominant man may be weak. My father, for instance was a submissive man at home.

Much of the profile that I wrote about in my article entitled The Boss was about my father. Without repeating that entire article, my father was a man who was in charge at work but came home and recognized my mother's authority in the home. My mother's authority while loving was the final say at home. I feel that I was lucky to have role models like my parents. My father passed a few years ago but my mother and I have discussed this topic and she said that a female led household was very common in their generation. Today, it seems that a female led household is frowned upon and the man is seen as weak where I say they are strong.…

Welcome!

Sign up for free access to this blog. Free members get access to stories and blogs like this one along with an email round-up of weekly posts.

Free Access

Up to 3 Posts/Week

  • Ad Supported
  • New Blog Notifications
  • Weekly Summary
Free

Supporter

Unlimited Access

  • Ad Free
  • Supporter-Only Forum
  • Request Blog Topics
  • New Blog Notifications
  • Weekly Summary
$5/mo or $50/yr
New Post Notifications Yes No thanks