First of all, thank you! Your feedback means the world to me. I created EvolvingYourMan.com as a space for open conversations, exploration, and understanding of female-led relationships (FLRs) and the various dynamics that come with them. Over time, the site has evolved (pun intended), and it’s because of thoughtful, candid input from readers like you.
After reviewing recent survey responses, a few common themes emerged from the 122 wonderful people that took time to give feedback. If you didn’t get a chance to submit your feedback please feel free to throw some thought down, I’d love more helpful insights.
We Want More FLR
One of the most frequent pieces of feedback was that there has been a heavy focus on cuckolding content lately, and some readers would prefer more coverage of other FLR-related topics—especially dominance/submission dynamics, male chastity, and the ‘knight and queen’ style of female-led relationships. Some of you enjoy the cuckold fantasy, while others feel it can overshadow the broader aspects of FLRs. I hear you, and I’ll do my best to balance my current fascination and journey with the journey that you are asking for. I write about what is fascinating and exciting to me but I’ll attempt to bring more balance to the content.
The Appeal of a Male Perspective
Another popular request was for more male voices on the blog. Many readers asked if Kev could contribute posts from his perspective, sharing his thoughts and feelings as a partner in an FLR. Some of you expressed curiosity about how men experience submission and power exchange in relationships, and how they process these dynamics emotionally. This is a great idea and Kev has agreed to do an AMA type post, if you would like to contribute to that, please submit your questions.
While many of you enjoy the focus on female empowerment, some also want to hear about how men experience these relationships. What does Kev love about me? What stood out to Erik when we first met? A bit of “male energy” sprinkled into the blog would give a more rounded perspective. I’ll look at ways to add this element in an engaging way but I also want the site to have more of a female voice and female appeal. I feel like there is already so much content from a male perspective and I’m hopeful that mine can be a little different. I of course also know that I don’t speak for every woman so diversity is key.
Balancing Kink and Relationship Dynamics
A few of you shared that while you appreciate content on various kinks, you’re most drawn to the posts that focus on broader relationship dynamics, communication, and male-female sexuality. Some readers feel that when intense kinks like cuckolding appear in general discussions about FLRs, it can make the entire lifestyle feel niche or intimidating to newcomers. Others expressed that kink-heavy discussions attract certain readers who engage in a way that shifts the tone of the forum. This is valuable insight, and I’ll be looking into ways to make the site more welcoming for those exploring FLRs at different levels.
More Content for Beginners and Mainstream Appeal
Several readers asked for more posts tailored to those who are FLR-curious but not ready to dive all in. There was strong interest in a more “a la carte” approach—choosing elements of an FLR without rigid labels. Some even suggested a way to categorize content by intensity, allowing readers to filter blog posts from vanilla to kink-heavy. I love this idea and I’d love to categorize the site in such a way. I realize that deeper relationship dynamics can be off-putting when you are just getting your feet in the water.
A portion of the community emphasized that while they enjoy reading about polyamory and cuckolding, their personal relationships are monogamous. Many requested more content that explores monogamous FLRs, particularly around male chastity, tease and denial, pussy lite and sexual power dynamics. I completely understand and monogamous perspectives continue to be well-represented.
Supporter Perks
I’ve been getting some feedback about the method I’m using to give supporters access to blog content. Right now, the system isn’t as seamless as I’d like it to be for my end, and I know that balancing exclusive content while still keeping things accessible can be tricky. One of the suggestions I’ve been considering is allowing non-supporters access to a limited number of blog posts per month—maybe three or five—so that those who can’t support the site financially can still engage with all of the content in a meaningful way without feeling like it is a “pay site”.
Some of you mentioned that you’d love to contribute but weren’t thrilled with the limited options available through Gumroad. Good news—Gumroad has now added PayPal as a payment option, making it easier for those who prefer that route! If that still doesn’t work for you, no worries—I have a few other ways you can support the site. Just reach out, and I’ll be happy to explore alternatives that work best for you. Your support means the world, and I truly appreciate every bit of it!
So, I’m looking into better ways to manage this—whether through a system that handles access automatically or another method that requires less hands-on work. Supporting the operation of the site while making it as engaging and inclusive as possible for everyone is my priority, and I appreciate all the input I’ve received so far. If you have ideas for ways to handle this, I’m all ears!
One particularly exciting suggestion was adding an audio component to the blog—perhaps an option to have posts read aloud for those who prefer listening over reading. A few readers shared that they enjoy reading posts aloud with their partners and would love a way to consume the content while multitasking. I love this idea and will explore ways to bring an audio option to the site! The add-ons to do this aren’t cheap so this may be a paid feature or feature exclusive to supporters.
A Thought from a Relationship Counselor
Not all feedback was glowing, and that’s okay! One reader, a psychologist, expressed concern that certain topics—especially those on cuckolding—could harm relationships rather than strengthen them. They urged me to consult relationship counselors to gauge the long-term impact of this content. While I certainly agree that cuckold relationships are not for everyone and I understand their perspective, I firmly believe that relationships thrive on communication, trust, and understanding. If cuckolding or other FLR elements are part of a consensual relationship, they can be fulfilling and strengthen bonds. With that said, I’d love to get more insight from her and maybe do a blog about her concerns so I emailed to see if we can perhaps collaborate on a blog but unfortunately the email address she provided wasn’t valid. If that was your comment or you have similar thoughts and would like to work with me on a blog, I’d love to explore a collaboration. I’ll always strive to present these topics with care, responsibility, and balance even with opinions that are different from my own.
Moving Forward—Together
This feedback has been invaluable, and I want you to know that I’m listening. EvolvingYourMan.com is, at its core, a place for exploration, personal development, relationship exploration and education. My goal is to create content that resonates with you, whether you’re just dipping your toes into FLR or fully immersed in the lifestyle. I am a data nerd and I loved doing this exercise. I would absolutely love to dive into a research project exploring the different elements of modern marriages—how they’re evolving, what dynamics make them thrive, and how unconventional relationship structures play a role in long-term happiness.
From communication styles to power dynamics, from ethical non-monogamy to shifting gender roles, there’s so much rich territory to explore. If you have any interest in collaborating on this, I’d love to have some help! Whether it’s building questions, analyzing data, building graphs or just brainstorming topics, I’m all ears for a great research partner. I see it as an opportunity to do our own version of the PornHub year in review.
Expect a broader range of topics, more male perspectives, and a conscious effort to balance kink and relational dynamics. Thank you for being part of this journey! Your voices help shape this community, and I’m excited to continue evolving with you.
Evolving Your Conversation
- What aspects of an FLR do you wish were more widely discussed in mainstream relationship advice?
- If you could ask Kev (or Erik) anything about their experience in an FLR, what would it be?
- Do you feel that certain kinks overshadow the broader conversation about FLRs? How can we strike a better balance?
- Would an audio component make it easier for you to engage with blog content?
- How has discovering FLR principles changed your relationship or personal outlook on love and intimacy?
