2020 Update – this blog was written over a year ago and I decided not to take it down but it doesn’t really represent the relationship that we have any longer. I encourage you to try whatever you feel is right for your relationship but we found that punishment pulled us apart. Although the site’s name is evolvingyourman, if I didn’t go through some personal evolution with my amazing guy I would be a fool indeed. Check out this blog for a more recent take on our relationship dynamic.
There comes a time where a bit of domestic discipline needs to come into play. Perhaps he is getting resentful, angry, snippy or just not responding to extensions of his lockup time. Here are some ideas to get you started.
This one is pretty obvious, if he is grounded he loses time with his friends or activities that he typically enjoys. TV, phone, video games, early bed time. The same sort of punishments that you probably do with your children if you have them.
This one can be effective if your man is a foodie. Very simply, you restrict him to boring bland foods for a period of time. For example, the only foods he is able to eat for the next three days is chicken broth. You can pick the food and be creative, maybe he is to eat foods that you know he doesn’t like.
Note – Do not limit his intake of water, this can be very dangerous.
Corner time is a planned time out when your man stands in a corner with no distractions such as television, phone, music etc. He is to stand in the corner, facing the wall to think about whatever it is that you wish him to think about.
Start by leading him over to the corner by his arm or wrist. You should identify a corner in the house as his corner so he knows where his punishments will be carried out. Then tell him how long he will be in the corner, I typically don’t do corner time for less than 30 minutes. Positions can vary but I like hands and arms behind his head. You can also have him hold coins against the wall with his fingers or even kneel on rice if your floor is hardwood or tile.
Make sure that his corner time is done in complete silence. If he is unclear as to the reason you are upset, this all needs to happen prior to corner time. If he speaks, drops the coins, takes his hands off his head or stands up from the rice, his counter starts over.
After corner time, a long embrace and encouragement about how well he handled his punishment is highly encouraged.
Have him write an apology letter or perhaps a recount of how he could have handled things differently. You can even have him write repeating lines such as “I will not forget to do your laundry”. After writing that one or two hundred times, he should have an easier time remembering next time.
The tried and true. Spanking your man is easy but can actually backfire if done improperly. Bending him over a chair, your lap or the bed can be kinky or exciting for him. If you aren’t careful, he may try to get himself “in trouble” just to get spanked. We don’t practice kinky spanking. When I spank my man I actually want it to hurt and I want a lesson to be learned. When I first started spanking him, I would take him over my knee after some stern words. At first he didn’t take me seriously and thought that I was playing into some sort of fantasy.
I realized that I couldn’t get the necessary force when I had him over my knee so I had him stand by the bed with his face buried in the pillow. This is basically the same position that we use for pegging. From there, I take a large wooden paddle and give him a few practice swats. After a couple good practices, I give him about five hard swats to the “convex buttocks”. I’ve included an illustration below so you know where to hit without causing damage. If you hit the right spot, you can leave deep bruises and even draw blood without any worry. Not that you go into this with the intention of bruising or blood, my point is that you don’t have to concern yourself if you do it correctly.
What should you spank with? I’d recommend a wooden paddle, hair brush or even a belt. Another photo is included above for information on which devices cause which levels of pain and welts.
Spank him, stop to allow the blood to rush to the spot that you were paddling then swat in the same place. This really helps direct the pain to those areas. Ultimately when I spank, the goal is not to draw blood or leave welts but to cause pain and induce crying. When he cries, I almost always stop.
After your spanking session is over, aftercare is important. Get some aloe gel or something cool and soothing to put on his bottom to help him heal up quickly. In my household, spanking is always followed by a long hug followed by some sweet words of encouragement and reminder of what was done wrong and specifics on how it can be avoided in the future. Afterwards, corner time always follows so he can think about his punishment and my loving words of encouragement.
Nobody is looking to make him guess how to stay out of trouble. I certainly don’t want him sitting in the corner thinking of his spanking and getting resentful so i feel that showing some love is very important. As head of household, I don’t want to spank him to tears but sometimes it is necessary.
I’ve included pegging here because I want to make sure that I am very clear that pegging is not a punishment. Pegging is a reward and when done properly, pegging should not be painful. As with accepting your man’s penis inside you, my man accepts my strap-on inside him and it is a fulfilling, exciting experience for both of us. If we do pegging after spanking, his skin can be a bit tender but pegging in our household is gentle and loving.