I’m writing the draft of this blog on a flight during that strange week between Christmas and New Year. Thankfully the flight is half full and I have the whole row to myself. I don’t think I’d be able to concentrate if I was constantly worried about the wandering eyes of the person beside me.
I haven’t been posting much over the last couple weeks, getting ready for the holidays and all but I’ve been thinking. What if fetishes are simply sexualized insecurities? The human brain is pretty amazing and it does some counterintuitive things as coping mechanisms.
Think about it for a second. If fear stimulates your body into creating excitement then maybe we are just punishing ourselves to satisfy our addiction to adrenaline. The human condition is an amazing thing!
What if the male cuckold fetish is the sexualization of the insecurity of being cheated on and not being good enough? For men, sex is a performance. They have to worry about getting hard, staying hard and not finishing too early or too late. All of those emotions create opportunities for men to feel like they may fail or are not as good as other male options that their lady may have. I never really realized just how much work the male/penetrative side of sex actually is until we brought pegging into our bedroom.
Penis Size Humiliation
Perhaps insecurity related to penis size of a bigger or seemingly “better” man. As females we are constantly given standards that are impossible to live up to. Male porn stars do the same with regard to penis size. The average man is 5.16 inches long with the average male porn star being over eight inches long. It is no wonder that men are self conscious about being anatomically up to the task. Soft penis and ejaculation problems never happen in porn so any guys with concerns in that department may further compound their insecurity.
Male chastity is a fetish that I am certainly familiar with. We use devices, will power, promises and trust to control and mold ejaculation patterns to promote our relationship goals. It works beautifully and has become one of the tenents of our relationship. I’ve found it to be a truly amazing way to help guide and motivate my partner.
With that being said, most women aren’t approaching their guys about the benefits of chastity. Most women familiar with chastity were approached by their guy and this became a part of their lives as a fetish. From there, they began to experience many of the benefits and quickly embraced it.
What if sexualization of female control or female dominance is the root of chastity? Many would say that chastity sits squarely in the world of BDSM and while this site attempts to separate it from that world, the BDSM chastity community certainly exists. The chastity device is a physical manifestation of a controlling hand, guiding the man toward constructive uses for his mojo.
Here are a few that I thought of after hitting publish.
- Female rape fantasies
What other fantasies do you think could be a product of our minds sexualizing insecurities? Add them in the comments below and I may create a follow up to this blog.