Do you have a husband who is lazy & unmotivated? Are you looking for ways to help regain some excitement in your marriage and in his day to day. Men can be absolutely amazing. Do you remember how he was when you first started dating? He was just like the man he is today but he had an extra something. An extra spark of life. Do you remember the chivalry that you felt when he would open the car door for you? That is all but gone now but what if I told you that it is possible to bring that man back? What if I told you that it was possible to reignite that spark by taking control of your relationship?
First and foremost, make sure that he understands the expectations that you have for him. The expectations of what you want from your marriage and make sure that you let him know that he is capable of being that man. It will likely go on deaf ears but it is important that he know what is missing, at least from his perspective. Don't come at him with an angry tone. Use a tone of compassion and make certain to have some give an take. What can you do to make him pick up after himself? What can you do to help him with the lazy tendencies? Use compassion and make sure that he doesn't think you are attacking him lest he get defensive or shut down. Remind him that you still love him, remind him of the things in your life that are wonderful such as kids and family. Don't be overly critical and try to steer clear from specifics, you don't want this to turn into an argument.
Hopefully the above conversation went well. If not, perhaps try another time with a lighter approach until you get a more compassionate response. Assuming it went well, tell him that you have some ideas that might help give him some extra motivation. Ask if he is interested in hearing some ideas that might bring that spark back. Don't answer right away, tell him that you will do some research and talk to him about it later. Remember that your husband ultimately wants to please you. A happy wife is truly a happy life and both of you know it. So much of his happiness and confidence is derived from making his partner happy.
You could consider threatening him with the lazy husbands act of 1913 but that old law may not be applicable or effective in today's day and age. Let's try a different approach. How about if I told you that there is a pill that will make him subconsciously make him want to make him please you. What if I told you that this pill would also give him a great deal of personal and relationship satisfaction from making you happy. Start the conversation that way, knowing that at his core, he truly does want to make you happy. What I am peddling isn't a pill or even a tonic, it is something that is tried and true and doesn't have a long list of chemically adverse side effects. What I am suggesting is orgasm control. If your guy is like mine, he craves physical intimacy and loves sex. If you are like me, you crave emotional intimacy and also love a deeply intimate sexual connection with your partner. Orgasm control is a means to support both of your needs in the relationship. As you discuss orgasm control, he is going to have lots of questions. Does this mean that you are going to withhold sex? Absolutely not! Sex and intimacy may actually increase as you add orgasm control into your relationship. There really isn't anything for him to worry about, this is designed to ensure that both of your needs are met.
If your guy is like most, he masturbates 3-5 times per week. But wait, my guy doesn't masturbate that much! Yeah, he does. He just doesn't tell you every time that he takes matters into his own hands. The first step is to put a damper on his self-love because it truly is cheating you both of relationship intimacy. Are you an open minded, modern gal who thinks that his self love doesn't have an impact on you? Think again! The male orgasm is designed to make him clam up and shut down his ability to be emotionally intimate with you. Ask him to honestly tell you the last time he masturbated, I think you will be very surprised at the frequency. Discuss the hormonal shift that unregulated orgasms can create and the negative relationship symptoms that it may be creating.
Orgasm control has been practiced for thousands of years from taoism to tantra. Taking his orgasms and rationing them back to him prevents him from dulling his emotional side with frequent hits of dopamine. There are two methods, one is the honor system and the other is enforced by using some sort of device. For many men, starting with the honor system is a great way to see the initial effects but most fellas have been masturbating since their teens. Using a device to help them is like weaning them off of a drug that they've had access to since adolescence. The device itself can also help take the kink up a notch and keep the excitement level high for both of you. There are many designs of devices and you may go through a few before you find one that fits well. They range from very expensive custom fitted stainless steel devices to inexpensive plastic resin or silicone devices. …
