I don't know your husband but my guess is that he is willing to do nearly anything to make you feel loved and supported. I am also guessing that you and your husband may not be completely aligned when it comes to love languages. When you are really hurting or feeling alone, he can usually do the things that make you feel loved but you yearn for him to show the same effort every day. He is somewhat oblivious and unless he observes you hurting he may not be self aware enough to make the concerted effort. The reason, it just doesn't come naturally for him.

Your husband has approached you and asked you to lock his penis up. Does this mean that he doesn't want to have sex with you? On the contrary, this probably means that he craves more intimacy and sexual situations. He is probably deeply aware that he can do better around the house and realizes that a lock on the cock will help him realign his priorities and be more emotionally available.

Tease and denial is the act of experiencing high levels of sexual arousal without orgasm, think of it as foreplay on steroids. Foreplay is great, it primes our pumps for lovemaking and allows blood to start flowing to all of the right places. Imagine for a moment that foreplay lasted for hours or even days. There is a sense of euphoria and high that surrounds this type of long term sexual arousal without satisfying the arousal with an orgasm. Orgasm denial is a combination of chemical reactions and physical responses which trigger libido and excitement in the subconscious mind.

Locking him up is about taking charge of the relationship, at least the sexual side. Find a cage that fits well and experiment with what works for the two of you. I can give you advise on what works and doesn't work for me but much of it will be trial an error with your own relationship. I'd recommend that you start with my blog entitled Taking The Reins for more information on how to get started.

On the contrary, this may be a change but it should result in having more help around the house and feeling more pampered overall. Understanding his needs and helping him manage his sexual urges will become second nature before you know it. Before long, you will be having fun with it and really enjoying the new relationship dynamic that it adds. Remember that he is bringing a fantasy to you and indulging his fantasy will validate your love to him. From the female standpoint, chastity is one of the most beneficial fantasies that he could have approached you with. Give it a shot, in my opinion you've really lucked out.

You can do lots of fun things with it! Could he stand to lose a few pounds? Do you need more help around the house? Does he have a masturbation problem? How about other addictions such as smoking or alcohol? All of these things can be used in conjunction with a chastity cage to motivate positive behaviors. Remember that the cage is not a punishment, reinforce and reward his positive behaviors with attention while he is caged. …

Strong women are typically honest, independent, confident and they aren't afraid to be themselves. I haven't always felt the level of confidence that I do now. Confidence was especially hard to find during high school while I was finding myself. Once I found myself, I realized that I am pretty happy with the person that I've allowed myself to become. A strong woman usually emotionally dependent since she usually has a career, family, friends, hobbies and other interests that she uses to frame her happiness.

So you are a strong woman and you are in a relationship with a man, how will taking charge make him feel? What are the benefits? How should you go about starting it? Do you want to take charge in the bedroom or are you thinking of other aspects of the relationship? As you can tell, there are tons of options when it comes to taking charge.

If you don't normally take control, it might feel weird. For the longest time, sex was something that boyfriends would do to me. He did sex to me. He fucked me. At some point I became comfortable with myself and did sex to him. I fucked him. I felt timid about being dominant. I feel like society paints dominant women as bitches or Karens and I didn't want to be that. It also thought that guys don't want a dominant woman. Boy was I wrong. Taking control makes him feel wanted and makes him feel desired. No respectable guy wants to have sex with a woman who doesn't want to sex him back. Part of the allure of sex for mature adults is the fact that another human wants you just as much as you want them and that feels good.

When you show him or tell him what you like, he feels empowered and he feels like you are getting what you want. Most guys are visual learners so showing him will work better than telling him. You can even show him what you like without his participation. Let him sit across the room and play with yourself, show him what gets you off. No touching allowed. By not being focused on his own pleasure he might just learn a thing or two.

Most guys last an average of 120 seconds which isn't nearly enough for us to get close to even thinking about an orgasm thus resulting in an orgasm gap where women have far fewer orgasms than men. If we take charge, we can save the traditional sex for the end when we might actually have a chance of getting off in that 120 seconds. Even better, safe his orgasm for after you have achieved one or two orgasms of your own. For more experienced couples, consider skipping his orgasm entirely.

Most men thrive with structure and clear expectations. Whether you are creating a female led structure for the bedroom or for the entire relationship, it eliminates the power struggle. In the bedroom he can feel like you are completely satisfied simply by following directions and instructions. Some guys are inherently submissive by nature and that's just fine. Other guys are more dominant and/or have a position of authority during the day but when they come home, they are exhausted and want to mentally relax when they are with the woman they love. …

Life has been busy, what can I say. I've been away for a few weeks but I figured that I would start back with a quick blog about some do's and don'ts for a successful relationship that employs male chastity. I owe you all some updates and I promise I'll get to them very soon. In the meantime, here are some do's and don'ts to help you allow yourself to accept extra attention, affection and communication that goes hand and hand with male chastity. Most relationships are starved for intimacy. Make changes and start today. Lock him up, buttercup!

Communication is essential in any relationship but especially so when you are locking up an essential part of your partner's anatomy. The lockup isn't meant as a means of punishment, it is meant as a way of working together to direct his sexual energy toward you. Without proper communication this approach is bound to backfire. When you cage your guy, he will almost immediately become more communicative. Much of this communication will be about his cage but redirect that conversation to real and meaningful topics. A couple that communicates regularly is unstoppable and will overcome nearly any obstacle. Using something as simple as a lock and key as a metaphor for your love will give you a tool to keep him talking and encourage him to express his feelings.

The intention isn't to cause soreness or injury due to improper cage fitment. A properly fitting cage is essential for success. Whether you are using the cage for a weekend or a month, the intention is for him to eventually forget that the cage is there. The cage eventually will give him a sense of security, comfort and reassurance of your love for him. An improperly fitting cage will become a challenge to your success. A properly fitting cage can be worn while doing most daily activities but it may take some trial and error to find a cage that fits him perfectly. Every anatomy is different so finding the right cage might take some trial and error.

Teasing him daily or several times a day keep things exciting for him and help him remember that you are in charge of his orgasms and keep his sexual energy focused on you. Teasing can be as simple as a reminder that he is locked. Waving your car keys with a knowing smile. Giving his cage a firm tug through his pants. Key necklaces are wonderful as you can see his eyes dart down while you are talking to him. You can see his attention on your necklace as a gentle reminder of your love for him. Arousal can take many forms; from a soft caress of his arm to other non-orgasmic activities like pegging or requesting a massage from him. This is a chance to be overly and overtly sexual without feeling the pressure for more. I like to bend over, spread my legs, flash my tits, lick my lips in extremely obvious attempts to get his sexual juices flowing.

When you implement male chastity, it doesn't need to immediately be a full time lockup. Try for an hour or two at a time. After a few brief lockup periods, try sending him to work locked. If that works, let him sleep in his cage. Involuntary overnight erections will be a challenge the first few nights but they can be easily releived by getting up to urinate. When a man has an erection, it is impossible for him to urinate and his body does it to prevent urination during sleep.

Acknowledging and embracing his frustration is a wonderful way to make him feel loved. Use his frustration as a motivational tool. Do you need yardwork done? Use his newly found energy as a way to motivate him to do yard work. Could he stand to lose a few pounds? Using weight loss as a goal for unlocking is a great way to have a goal that results in a slimmer trimmer boyfriend/husband. Do you need a massage or perhaps oral love? His sexual energy is wonderfully suited for physical touch. He will want to touch you and please you. Don't miss out!…

The perfect cage would perfectly encapsulate the penis at its most flaccid state without creating discomfort as the penis swells to its erect state. The cage is not a torture device, it is simply to prevent arousal and access to the organ. The cage should also not inhibit cleanliness or urination since those are essential to normal hygiene. Measuring yourself for your first cock cage can be scary especially when cages are expensive. The consequences for an improperly fitted cage are high from a discomfort and a replacement cost standpoint. Nobody wants a used cock cage so they are generally worthless if you purchase an ill fitted cage.

Cages come in all shapes and sizes just like penises so measurement is challenging. Cages typically come with a ring and a tube which connect together to encapsulate the penis. The ring goes behind the testicles and up against the body while the tube covers and encloses the penis. Button that all together with some sort of locking mechanism and you have nearly every modern cock cage.

To measure the ring, take a piece of string and wrap it around your balls and hold it firmly to the top of your penis. It should be tight but not uncomfortably so, remove the string and measure it. Write that number down both in metric and imperial since cages can be sized both ways.

To measure the tube, measure your flaccid penis after coming out of a warm shower. This typically is going to be slightly larger than your smallest state. You want to measure from the base of the penis where it meets the body to the tip. Again make sure that you write down your measurement in both metric and imperial so you can shop for cages in both sizes.

Go cheap! Purchase an inexpensive cage with good reviews. Safety is first and foremost so don't buy anything with reviews that say anything about unfinished or sharp edges. When you purchase a cage, find one that includes multiple base rings if possible. This will allow you to try different sizes and see how they feel.

Cages are a specialty item and they typically ship from China so shipping is going to take from 30 to 60 days. If you unless you are lucky enough to find one at your local sex shop, you might pay more but can take it for a test drive sooner.…